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An education in boundaries: I’ve been trying to think of a way to explain why TikTok comments like these feel so Wrong to me. Every time either TT or myself posts a 
spicy video, my notifications are flooded with people tagging me in their thirst comments. (cont)
spicy video, my notifications are flooded with people tagging me in their thirst comments. (cont)
I’m not annoyed that people are thirsting over my partner (I mean, have you SEEN them?) But when a stranger directly tags me in a thirst comment, they are using my relationship with my partner to position themselves closer to TT, or relate to me, which crosses several boundaries.
I get it. I thirst over my partner every second of the damn day. I thirst over them with my friends. And yes - I also thirst over them publicly, on the internet. But that isn’t an invitation for strangers to insert themselves into my relationship dynamic.
This behaviour is seen frequently with friendship groups too. If you’re a content creator with a online friendship group you interact with, you’ll always have strangers trying to insert themselves into that dynamic as a way to feel closer to you. It comes with the territory.
But it crosses the very important line between content creator and audience member that so often gets blurred. Both myself and a follower may publicly thirst over my partner, but that doesn’t give us something to bond over and it shouldn’t blur that line.
To stress - the line between creator and audience member is not there to preserve some kind of hierarchy or status. It is there to protect the safety and comfort of BOTH parties. That is why boundaries are so important.
