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So. Non-scientific poll. Out of 733 self-described #ADHD folks, 585 of them reported that it was difficult or impossible to achieve orgasm while receiving oral sex.
Nearly 80%.
Almost twice the rate of the neurotypical population, from the scant studies I can find. https://twitter.com/NomeDaBarbarian/status/1345168157476937728
Nearly 80%.
Almost twice the rate of the neurotypical population, from the scant studies I can find. https://twitter.com/NomeDaBarbarian/status/1345168157476937728
And, when asked the below question, almost everyone in #NeurodiverseSquad who joined in reported being distracted during sex by thoughts of how best to /perform/ enjoying sex. https://twitter.com/NomeDaBarbarian/status/1345181306720636928?s=20
I don't have access to a research library anymore, but there's VERY LITTLE out there where I can find it about the intersection of #ADHD and sex.
And just from the reports of people on here, there's one super common thought I've heard.
"I thought I was just broken."
And just from the reports of people on here, there's one super common thought I've heard.
"I thought I was just broken."
ADDitude mag is normally a good resource, but the article they have is very much gendered, heteronormative, assumes the dude is the one with ADHD, and assumes sex within a marriage. https://www.additudemag.com/learning-to-linger/
This article, from Healthline, does a little bit better, and it mentions something tangentially that a lot of folks have reported here anecdotally.
Variety.
To be more specific - kink. https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adult-adhd-sex-life#treatment
Variety.
To be more specific - kink. https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adult-adhd-sex-life#treatment
My healthiest sexual relationships have been kinky ones.
I don't know what else I can build on this yet, but fuck, lemme just say this right now:
If you're a person who desires sex, and feels attraction, and has those issues? You're nowhere near the only person who deals with this.
And the way you are is a fine way to be.
If you're a person who desires sex, and feels attraction, and has those issues? You're nowhere near the only person who deals with this.
And the way you are is a fine way to be.
There are things that you and your partner can do to make this better for you (that will be mutually enjoyable, I promise), and they are reasonable things to ask for. Your needs are worth filling, because you're a person who deserves that.
