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(1/6) Six yrs ago, a friend who had recently come out as lesbian (at 42) burst into tears & told me she was trans.
I found a trans support group, went with her as an ally, switched to male pronouns & name when he was ready, and even found a doctor to put him on testosterone.
I found a trans support group, went with her as an ally, switched to male pronouns & name when he was ready, and even found a doctor to put him on testosterone.
(2/6) I was surprised at how little evaluation he received, but he was sure it was what he wanted and the doctor said he'd "never met anyone who regretted transitioning".
But when he started on the T, he decided his longtime psychiatrists were wrong & he wasn't really bipolar
But when he started on the T, he decided his longtime psychiatrists were wrong & he wasn't really bipolar
(3/6) as they'd always said, so he stopped taking the medication that had kept him stable for years.
The increased aggression from the T, combined with going off his meds, led to him physically assaulting two different mutual friends, and me ending the friendship. That was 4
The increased aggression from the T, combined with going off his meds, led to him physically assaulting two different mutual friends, and me ending the friendship. That was 4
(4/6) years ago.
I got a message an hour ago. He died by suicide yesterday. As far as I know, he never went back on his bipolar medication & I'm sure that's the main cause.
But if I hadn't helped him so much, maybe he would never have gone on the hormones, and never stopped
I got a message an hour ago. He died by suicide yesterday. As far as I know, he never went back on his bipolar medication & I'm sure that's the main cause.
But if I hadn't helped him so much, maybe he would never have gone on the hormones, and never stopped
(5/6) taking that medication, in the first place.
I never once questioned if it was really who he was, but knowing more now, I can look back & see signs that he was running away from being a woman more than running toward being a man. He'd been physically & sexually abused as
I never once questioned if it was really who he was, but knowing more now, I can look back & see signs that he was running away from being a woman more than running toward being a man. He'd been physically & sexually abused as
(6/6) a child and in & out of foster care. He was having trouble feeling comfortable as an out lesbian. The woman he had feelings for is married to a transman.
I'm feeling guilt for what I didn't know then, plus much sadness that he didn't find peace after all he'd been through.
I'm feeling guilt for what I didn't know then, plus much sadness that he didn't find peace after all he'd been through.
