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I hear about those moments, I used to interview supportive Asian parents of LGBT parents, it exists. However, for me personally, those moments of tenderness don't x out the daily abuse that overshadowed my childhood. Abuse isn't analogous to Asian culture but it is a huge problem https://twitter.com/catcontentonly/status/1346653499589877762
I responded to this in the thread but wanted to quote RT for followers. Like y'all don't know how bad I could say "they weren't perfect but they tried." It's so beyond that. I wish I could appreciate their efforts when every year I grow older I get more resentful of what I missed
Like when I confronted my grandma 3 years for abusing me for years her first response was how I "ruined her socks with a pair of scissors" at the age of 3 and she "forgave me???" My mom tried so hard to convince me not to confront her when she NEVER stood up for me against my gma
She valued the feelings of a 78 year old MIL abuser more than her own fucking 3 year old child. Point in case, my guardians were shitty not because they were Asian but because they were abusers, stat. Which goes hand-in-hand with being racists, which my dad & gma are.
I started ranting cuz this tweet kinda reminded me of my mom saying "u never remember the good things," which is gaslighting. the good things aren't what needs to be fixed by therapy for the remainder of my life. It's her patting herself on the back for trauma bonding.
