Unpacking Pearl, a thread

okay so today i want to unpack Pearl & what she “feels” for Karleen a little.

because, at some point when she was talking with Alex, Alex mentioned loving love to the point of leaving rships if she doesn’t feel the flame anymore...

that’s a common “issue” that is well known already. people needing passion in their relationships.. & going elsewhere to find it if it fades in the relationship they are in.
(very on brand for a Sagittarius tbh)

but Pearl.. in the way i see things, she has another issue,

that is not widely recognized, even if it has been discussed before..

Pearl kinda has a sort of, “gambling problem”, which imma explain :

a few years ago, a woman that is actually well renowned for her psychological studies on sex & relationships—

made a video on YouTube in which she talked about people that behave like Pearl behaves with Karleen.

people like Pearl, that always run to someone, that is inconsistent with the attention they give, unclear in their motives, & play it hot & cold with you.. like Karleen.

the woman explained that with certain people —like Pearl—, the behavior Karleen has activates the reward circuit of the brain, taking risks on something that has low chances of happening in the hopes of obtaining a big reward.

the video explanation :

now let’s focus on “we have this rush, this high going through our brain cuz we’re waiting for the outcome of a risky behavior that we believe will give us a reward”

that’s EXACTLY what Pearl did at that moment :

like... what was the reason??
“i have to take this call” — was there an emergency? NO.

just an urge, a pulse that Pearl felt, because of the potential reward she could get : Karleen’s love.

& even like that, she didn’t get what she wanted because when she picked the call—

Karleen remained avoidant.
Pearl ended her call with Alex & took a risk.. for nothing.

another issue that Pearl has, which i have been suspecting for a long time, is, pride. she isn’t boastful nor pretentious, but in terms of self esteem,

she refuses to accept that she has “lost” the battle with Karleen.

i realized that when Pearl did her video on the theory of X and constant..

like.. doing everything in your power so that your X loves you back.. okay.. but at some point you have to actually look at the situation for what it is. if your X actually gives in, then it’s working.
if they hit you with that hot & cold behavior—

like Karleen does.. is it really worth it? just accept the loss & leave babe.

this behavior of not accepting the loss, is rooted in pride, among other things that were also listed in the video i shared earlier, here’s the part that touches on that

in conclusion, i think Pearl is stuck on a gambling/slot machine/dopamine rush roller coaster when it comes to Karleen.

some ppl think she prefers Karleen.. personally i don’t think it’s that,
i think with Karleen there’s just this gambling factor that Pearl is addicted to.

it’s okay. many people are. & this plays a big part into going after emotionally available ppl as the chances of getting that big reward (their love) is slim.

i would say Alex has this problem too but Alex just wanted to a serious relationship & figured that maybe going after—

that childhood love that she never really stopped loving, would finally make things work for her.

that’s actually a very solid rationale in my opinion.

if none of my relationships works but my love for you never really went away after years?

i’d think you must be the right for me, too.

thank you for reading!

btw, here’s the link to the full video if any of you wants to learn more.
it’s actually a very interesting watch