Serious question for people who lived in violent relationships:
How do you let go of your well worn, ingrained responses from past violent relationships when you get in new relationships?

(Explanation below)
I’m in a great relationship now: brilliant guy, kind, loving and gentle, complete opposite to my marriage....but if he gets even a little bit frustrated (not at me, it’s Centrelink today) I walk on egg shells and automatically shift my kid to another room
I’m so used to frustration or annoyance being followed by violence that I immediately resort to my old coping/protective strategies and I want to let go of that. It’s not good for me and it’s not fair to new people who are not the old people or even like the old people.
So how do you do it? How do you stop reacting through trauma rather than common sense?
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