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“the paramedic” on Netflix is such a good movie to show the cycle of abuse in a relationship.
1) Consistently moody partner who takes their moods out on you making you feel like you’re walking on egg shells/can do no right and you don’t know what mood they’ll be in.
1) Consistently moody partner who takes their moods out on you making you feel like you’re walking on egg shells/can do no right and you don’t know what mood they’ll be in.
2) Childlike partner who doesn’t know how to express emotions properly and can make complaints, then retract them when you defend yourself as though “you don’t have to change/defend yourself, I was just saying” Covertly controlling you.
3) A partner who makes you feel like you owe them and have to do everything for them, through reminding you of what they do for you.
4) Poor manners - No pleases/thank you or basic respect, undermines you and makes you feel like lesser in the relationship & them in charge.
4) Poor manners - No pleases/thank you or basic respect, undermines you and makes you feel like lesser in the relationship & them in charge.
5) Temper tantrums when things don’t go their way, to the point you feel to blame for their misfortune. While they never take accountability for their bad decisions, you’re the bad guy for reminding them.
6) Actively flirt with other people/use other people to make you jealous.
6) Actively flirt with other people/use other people to make you jealous.
Make you feel like you’re not good enough, or there are other people ready and willing to take your place.
7) Watching you and not allowing you to have freedom, could stalk you from afar.
8) When they notice you’re tired of their s***, can bring on the charm and be sweeter &
7) Watching you and not allowing you to have freedom, could stalk you from afar.
8) When they notice you’re tired of their s***, can bring on the charm and be sweeter &
Suddenly act like they’re nice/happy people. May spoil you temporarily and be super sweet to ensure you remember the “good times”.
9) Will remind you of these apparent “good times” when calling them out on how unhappy they make you
10) Change particular narratives to make you
9) Will remind you of these apparent “good times” when calling them out on how unhappy they make you
10) Change particular narratives to make you
Feel guilty and twist stories so you’re to blame for things that weren’t actually your fault. Starts a cycle of you apologising and them never being wrong because you’ve either done worse or are the one to blame.
11) Never apologising.
12) Guilt trip with a lot of sob stories.
11) Never apologising.
12) Guilt trip with a lot of sob stories.
13) Diminishes what you have done for them. Likely speaks on the relationship like it was just an irrelevant chapter in their lives. You were meaningless. Makes you confused and question how they felt.
14) and “you’ve forgotten me already” “you’re likely already seeing someone” “you never loved me” “everyone always leaves me eventually” “I know I need therapy and help, I’m broken” some type of emotionally manipulative sentence to victimise themselves.
15) When questioning or demanding answers for mistreatment, they make you seem like you can’t leave them alone and you’re the one holding onto them. They will dismiss you as though you’re some POS. Final attempt at lowering your worth and devaluing you.
16) The word “no” becomes forbidden. They don’t directly tell you you don’t have a say and can’t tell them no. But to avoid arguments and mood swings, you avoid saying no because they can never respect your choices and boundaries.
