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So Bean Dad has been on my mind all day and I think the answer to his awfulness is right there in the 1st tweet. His daughter asked him an honest question (How?) and his automatic response is to assume a 9 year old is manipulating him.
She asked how and he thinks like ALL kids asking how to do something is manipulation into getting him to feed her, which to be fair if it was is not an unrealistic ask of a child of their parent. But no she asked how and then asked again for specific instructions.
It was simply an honest question she asked of her father, and instead of taking a minute to teach her he decided to amuse himself by watching her struggle, then post about her struggles and her perceived deficiencies on Twitter with the expectation that he'd be praised.
And he feels justified in his actions because that 9 year old girl was clearly playing him like a fiddle by asking how when instructed to do something she hadn't done before.
You can't claim a noble purpose of teaching self sufficiency when you start off with the idea that the child is just being demanding and manipulating for asking a question.
"Like all kids do when they want you to do it" is incredibly telling of how he sees the world. His response to anyone that criticizes him is that they all sit their children in front of YouTube for hours on end. Only he is righteous.
And yes, as a child of a narcissistic parent, this is definitely pushing my buttons today. But while my mother didn't really teach me much of anything and I had to figure it out for myself, at least she didn't also take pleasure in watching me struggle.
But that's probably because all of her daughters were such an afterthought for her that it never occurred to her to do just that.
