HOW TO COMMUNICATE SCHOLARSHIP OPPORTUNITIES WITH YOUR 'NAGGING' SPOUSE.

Yesterday, I made a tweet targetted specifically to female scholarship enthusiasts who are into a relationship.

Check here: https://twitter.com/Oludeewon/status/1345440666646675456?s=20

Some married women and men sent dm to me about the issues they are facing with their spouse.

Issues ranging from men who are unwilling to support their wives because they think they have a good job and there's no need for relocation, to women who constantly find ways of

frustrating their efforts.

A lady actually burnt her husband's Int'l passport because she doesn't want her husband to leave the country.

These issues have necessitated this tweet. We don't want to just post scholarship opportunities when there are underlining issues yet

unresolved.

These are some of my recommendations:

1. You may not have thought about relocation when you started your marriage. However, you need to carefully explain the advantages inherent in this decision.

I discovered that most of you just want to relocate without proper

knowledge of where you want to go, how you intend to get there and how to settle.

You need to do thorough research about those countries and what they can offer your spouse apart from you.

Most people are selfish; they are only thinking of your scholarship stipend without

thinking how your spouse will settle financially.

It's hard to convince a man earning about 300k in Lagos to leave his job and follow you to Canada, except he understands what he will gain.

Men are egocentric. We want to be in control of money

2. Many people are doing this scholarship thing without their spouse's knowledge because they don't want 'bad energy'. While this may be good, remember that even if you get it, you have sown a seed of hiding secrets, and your spouse may retaliate.

So, don't hide secrets.

3. Many told me that their spouses know about their scholarship plan from the outset of the marriage. But they are not in support anymore.

Well, I think you have to find out why exactly your spouse has suddenly changed. It may be the ripple effect of an existing issue that you

guys failed to realise and resolve. So, take time to think about it, pray, meditate, seek godly counsel and be humble.

The truth is that the foundation of your marriage is very important.

If you guys started with deceit and lies, issues like this are prevalent.

Let me tag my married friends to tell us how they were able to communicate their dreams with their spouses, as well as the sacrifices they made.

RT and tag your married friends.

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