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Women learn very early many of the lessons this dude taught his daughter, a thread: https://twitter.com/johnroderick/status/1345508384011816960
In the first tweet, this 9yo girl asked her dad, very appropriately, for assistance with something. A task she knew her father could do, and could teach her to do. She asked politely. He refused to show her how and forced her to figure it out herself, for six hours.
She learned that hunger, the most basic human need, was not enough to make her father care enough to see that need was addressed within an appropriate span of time. She also learned that her dad doesnât value her time, at all. Men frequently undervalue womenâs work.
She learned (or will learn) that when she asks for help, she may be insulted or belittled because sheâs just not that smart. Please keep in mind this is a 9 year old child:
She learned that when she displays completely appropriate emotions, men including her father will tell her that sheâs just overreacting or lacks emotional control. That she needs to just âovercome her frustrationâ or she needs to manage her anger. Textbook abuse language.
She will also learn that her father wonât ever consider that heâs wrong. He also canât imagine that this might be emotional abuse (which it definitely is!) Heâs fixated on the hours that passed before her belly was full, not on her emotional state. Emotional abuse = abuse.
So to that poor child, I really do hope that eventually you are able to get some therapy where you undo all of the patriarchal bullshit your father just taught you. Because he literally taught you what the patriarchy is.
And youâre only 9 years old.
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And youâre only 9 years old.
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