Ok it looks like I need to expand on this topic too.

Men wanting to appear younger is a conflation of two different ideas.

The first is men's aesthetic goals vs women's.

Biologically, younger women are more highly valuable. https://twitter.com/haverb6ck/status/1345439816620630018

They're more fertile and there's more of a chance they're virgins - so there's a higher likelihood of both your offspring surviving and actually being yours.

This isn't a conscious thing but it's one of the reasons we value youth in women so much.

That is not the case for men. Our youth is often a liability.

Yes there are advantages to being 50 rather than being 80, but a man's peak is in his 30's to 50's. Not just his 20's.

It's both longer and later than it is for women.

For this reason alone, women typically attempt to maximize the appearance of youth - and men who are dressed by women do the same.

I can't tell you how often I see men in their 50's who are dressed by their wives and look the same as their teenage sons.

It's a disaster.

It takes all the credibility, maturity, status, and authority that the man has earned over the decades and immediately throws it out the window.

Youth is a liability for men. It means we're untested and unproven.

The second conflation is that youth = relevance.

This may be the case in a youth-obsessed culture like the one we're a part of today, but it is not a universal truth.

Cultures used to move from childhood to adolescence to adulthood to elderhood.

Now, we're a bunch of adolescents - take a look at your average Boomer and tell me if he seems like someone who is a wise sage or more like your typical sunbird retiree.

Cultural relevance has no age and it's why fashion trends exist.

Their entire purpose is to help weed out those who are culturally fluent and those who aren't.

Yes much of that is driven by youth, but it doesn't all have to be.

So a man in his 50's should wear a simple pair of jeans and a T-shirt - even some sneakers but in a style that doesn't look like it's 1995 and he's still holding onto the aesthetics of when he was young and setting the pace.

Nor should he look like some sneakerhead in ripped skinny jeans, a tunic T, and the latest Off White collaboration or Supreme drop.

The former is lacking any cultural relevance, the latter is denying his age and statue.

And no, this doesn't change regardless of the age of women you date.

Dress in a way that's relevant - both to the current culture and to your own age and accomplishments.