Transguy cleaned his house and figured out why “slut shaming” is a thing (a thread)

Trigger warning! Brutal honest thoughts

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I'm a transguy who disagree with how society made the ground rules for both men and women

Is it really fair that a guy get’s rejected for his height? Is it fair that a woman get’s shamed for having fun? Is the dating world even fair or could we improve it somehow?

The dating world is full of toxic shallow people. Both men and women. I talked to a friend alot of times about why it’s the one group that is cool and the other group that is cheap for ... hitting the bed with someone. And åh boy it just hit me

We know that men are the typical the the once that impress and the women often are the once that picks. Both sides are working. Men can go work out and learn skills that will get them a girl.

Girls does make up and stuff to look good and all. Everyone does something. You get me?

But! Hard work and skills are (for reasons) more valuble than (just) being pretty and picking a partner. There is alot of work in the “get a girl” thing than “get a guy” thing.

It’s hard to explain but it’s true

Almost! Because the world isn’t black and white. Don’t cancel me

To explain this we are gonna have a “who fåks who” senario. We all know the classic:
if a guy get’s laid he is a lad but if a girl is with a guy she is seen as a .. yes

But what if we switched the game. Imagen a world where women does their usunal thing but that they are the

once that:
• starts a conversation
• asks a guy out
• texts the guy first
• goes out with the guy and score him bc

This is a “pick or impress game”

And the guys are the once that picks people to be with:
• they stand in the background and wait for a lady to do a move

• are the sceptical once when it comes to texting
• picks a “winner”
• the person that let’s the other score them

You all see what I’m getting at? Like it’s like salery. A nurse that helps people vs the business man selling stuff. Why can someone earn more than the other?

Salery can be another thread on it’s own but it’s just small stuff that at times hits you

To work on getting something is seen as more respected skill than a person picking. It’s “easy” to pick but to be a winner and getting what you want is the diffrence here. Not my rules tho

This is just how the world veiws things. Why we get the “slut shaming”.

It’s easy to pick and hard to get something you want. The amount of work is what cuts the line

So what then? Well women should try be the impresser more and men (if we killed homofobia) should try pick more

Why? It bc switches the game. Then women are the impressers earning the guys they get. And the guys becomes the ... other part. You see?

We can change some rules but there are simply thise ground rules that makes the diffrence. It’s society that made it this way

When that is said then we just got one problem. Gender roles. We are getting fet with movies about helpless princesses and princes that have to save them. That a women can’t do a thing on her own and have to wait for someone to come and save them. That men are the hard working

Does this make sense?

My friend told me that women control the dating world. At first I didn’t understand but then he explained it. Like if a woman is willing to be with many guys then she is seen as being “out of control” while a guy have to work hard and earn to get laid. Makes sense but not fair

Not fair for the women to be valued less and not fair for the man to work exstra hard

I know that equality is hard to get to 100% and it can’t be 100%. But we could try improve it as much we can so it doesn’t benefit one side only at least

With that info I have a mission. It’s gonna (hopefully) help both sides. It’s unfair that a guy is getting rejected because of his height. It’s unfair for a woman to get shamed for having fun

Steriotypes and old norms are standing in our way

My plan is to be a guy that takes what he want’s. I’m short so I have a high risk of getting rejected. I have a puss between my legs so I have a high risk for getting shamed for having fun

If my plan works and I become a confident impresser picking my dates even that I’m 151 cm

- then my job is done

Fåk genderrules and social norms. Let’s switch the game for once