Gentle parenting skills are life skills.

Let me tell you why;

Let me learn y'all a simple but powerful tool called: Reframing.

Reframing is when you take the negative thoughts surrounding an issue or undesired behavior & shift your focus to the underlying unmet need, or what the behavior/situation is communicating to you in a positive way

For example; your child is constantly up your butt. You can't shit alone, can't scoot, cant get up without them completely losing their shit.

This gets on your nerves to have someone touching you constantly.
You think; I can never get peace, my body doesn't belong to me, etc

Reframing requires you to examine the issue deeper and turn it into something you can change, a problem you can actively work toward solving.

My child isn't trying to annoy me because they know this gets to me. My child is up my butt because they are SEEKING CONNECTION with me.

This changes your previous negative connotation to the behavior. Now you know what's really going on and it's something you can totally solve!

Your child is starving for connection, take that and analyze the best way to meet the need.

It does feel like you vs them anymore.

When it doesn't feel like something negative anymore it's much easier to want to foster the effort it takes to connect.
It's time for you to take 1 on 1 time with them to do something THEY like. Play their favorite game, read stories together, make something together.

Reframing is a powerful LIFE skill. You can use it with every situation that leads to negative connotation in your mind.

For example, something I see almost everyone struggle with is self care. Making the time, wanting to do something for yourself.

Reframe that shit. Change the thought that says "I don't have time, I feel guilty to make time" and examine deeper.

"I am WORTH taking care of. I do so much that I need to prioritize my upkeep."
Reframing can change a complicated situation into something logical and doable.

Learning to parent gently, with respect and kindness will make you parent yourself with the kindness and respect you always deserved.

If you aren't doing both, you probably aren't actually doing the former.