The neat thing about being His “main” (well, one of the neat things) is that because I’m secure in my place, I’m only actually ‘competing’ with myself.

As in, how can I continue to improve myself to make His life better/easier/more fun?
1/
I’m not worried about getting replaced.

I am completely secure and at peace, whether He is with me or with someone else.

Not because I have Him “under control,” or wrapped around my finger but rather, it is entirely on ME whether I am serving Him to the best of my ability.
2/
I know that what I control is my own behavior.

There is always room for improvement, but I have set the bar high... for myself.

On purpose.

I knew from the outset that I would not do well as a #2, and I told Him exactly that.
3/
In order to achieve and MAINTAIN my place as #1, though, requires work on MY part.

Not His.

He has been clear and consistent about what it takes to be in the #1 spot.

And He’s been HONEST.
4/
His clear rules, added to His honesty and integrity, make it much easier for me to follow Him naturally.

I am more in my feminine with Him because of this than I have ever been.
5/
Which is not to say it’s been all easy.

Anyone who follows me here knows the hamsters are a major issue.

I overthink *everything.*
6/
But part of my “job” to maintain my place is getting a handle on my hamsters and controlling them.

And when I just can’t, despite trying?

That’s when I ask for His help.
7/
The communication is key.

Letting stuff marinate to resentment or anger isn’t an option.

And that’s where I have complete control over my own behavior.

Even if I am His sub/slave.
8/
Has there ever been jealousy?

Of course.

He’s amazing and so why wouldn’t I want Him all to myself?!?

But those jealousy hamsters won’t be tolerated... by Him or me.

And so it’s on me to control them, and express them in a constructive way.
9/
Frankly, the few times when I’ve had jealousy issues, it’s more about His time and attention than ANYTHING about who He’s with.

I know my own value— and I work hard to maintain *and raise* it.

That’s why I am ‘competing’ only with myself.
10/
I am grateful for His time and attention, and it’s so, so valuable to me.

That’s why I have a hard time understanding girls who don’t recognize the value of their Man’s attention... and act accordingly.

If He’s not worth you being your best, why are you even with Him?

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