one of the best things therapy and experience have taught me is the wisdom of assuming that people’s feelings toward you are exactly the same as their behavior toward you, because even if they aren’t the same, they might as well be
i highly recommend taking some time to mentally run through what it would ACTUALLY mean if a person’s feelings toward you differed from how they treat you, & that you approach that contemplation while keeping it firmly in mind that it’s impossible for you to truly control others.
seriously. even allowing the assumption that (for example) a person who mistreats you really does love you, why does that matter?

it’s not like you can make them show that hypothetical emotion. what’s the point of agonizing over something that is, at best, a moot point?
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