[sex]

Inspired by convos w/ @lilririah but even as an allosexual, it's annoying how people misconstrue the inclusion of "not sex" and "forced abstinence."

Having healthy and safe discussions around the choice to *not* have sex doesn't just benefit ace folk.

If it weren't for sexual health, education and positivity that included healthy conversations on *not sex* I'd also be stuck feeling the same guilt and broken feeling y'all put on ace folk for the times where I'm not interested in sex, dong have the drive or my body hurts too bad

Giving space for people to openly discuss *not sex* far away from the realms of forced abstinence allows allosexuals and a asexuals to contribute to sex positivity and conversations on consent.

We are well aware of people trying to push this idea that sex is something done to you or that you do for others so when the topic is not being interested (ever or just in the moment) it always follows a trip down the road of guilt for not wanting to participate +

+ regardless of how you feel.

The entire point of including safe and healthy conversations about not wanting, not being able to, or not liking sex (regardless of how often or not often that is) is that it makes sure that sex positivity healthy and education is exactly that.

You can't have sex positivity when you're still shoving sex into everyone's faces regardless of consent and acting as if forced abstinence is the same thing as consent to abstinence, asexuality and generally not doing it.

as a personal anecdote, my body has been puttibg me through hell for the past several weeks to the point where I'm not even comfortable being viewed sexually bc it's impossible to feel that drive with the way my body feels. Making these convos inclusive also helps ppl like me