When I was a bartender I was taught someone being rude to you 1 on 1, saying your service was slow is one thing.

Someone turning around to the rest of the bar going "Don't you think this person is slow?" is playing to an audience. And that's when you need to get the bouncer. https://twitter.com/GraceOnFootball/status/1344308732256260097

A number of us got reared in the age of "I'm not a racist/sexist/homophobe! I hate everyone equally!" but you can't be an equal opportunities dickhead in an unequal society.

Also as you get older and get to a certain level of power you shouldn't... want to be a dickhead?

I said it on the @marking_man podcast but my Twitter experience *dramatically* changed after 10k followers. There's certain things I don't do anymore in an effort to make the experience nicer for others.

Dunk QTs and putting people on blast affects different people differently.

Twitter also dramatically changes again once you cross over 25k followers, and then you have to start making changes to protect yourself.

Online Discourse made more sense when you realise some people treat it as a school playground times infinity while others treat it as a massive bar on loop.

And those two worlds are constantly clashing unawares of what's going on.