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Other People: *makes fat joke characters whose fatness is basically the only thing that comes up about them*
Me: "Shut the fuck up."
Common Respectful People: *depicts fat characters and then just never brings their fatness up at all*
Me: "OK but that is the coward's way."
Me: "Shut the fuck up."
Common Respectful People: *depicts fat characters and then just never brings their fatness up at all*
Me: "OK but that is the coward's way."
Me: "This character is adorbs, and also really fat. Her friend here is almost as fat. She is also really smart and relatable and HOT and her gf loves her. She wants to love herself and does, but can slip into self-hate thanks to a lifetime of bullying and abusive relationships."
Another Character: *makes fat jokes*
Me: "This character is a bitch and will be taught a lesson."
Fat Character's Friend: *laughs at these jokes and throws her friend under the bus to not catch her abuse*
Me: "Also a bitch, taught lesson, but this too is the abuser's fault."
Me: "This character is a bitch and will be taught a lesson."
Fat Character's Friend: *laughs at these jokes and throws her friend under the bus to not catch her abuse*
Me: "Also a bitch, taught lesson, but this too is the abuser's fault."
Fat Character: *Completely defies abuser's expectation to feel shame for her fatness and revels in herself out of spite, shames everyone who comes at her with cleverness in really cool ways*
Me: "Now don't we all wish we had balls of steel like her?"
Me: "Now don't we all wish we had balls of steel like her?"
Fat Character's GF: *adores her chubby little GF and loves how she looks and stands the fuck up and gets confrontationally mad anytime someone else even so much as ambiguously flings a microaggression her way, even when her GF isn't there*
Me: "This is what love looks like."
Me: "This is what love looks like."
Abuser: *once alone w/ Fat Character, she tries to talk her into dumping her gf & getting back together, making it sound like opportunity*
Me: "Fat people are often abused most harshly by people ashamed of their attraction to them. Abusers treat encounters with them as favors."
Me: "Fat people are often abused most harshly by people ashamed of their attraction to them. Abusers treat encounters with them as favors."
Fat Character: *fucking slaps away that offer, calls her former abuser out, says her new gf was right about her and will never go back*
Me: "Fat people often succumb to manipulation, feeling they are unworthy of anyone else. But they DO have options and can prove to be popular."
Me: "Fat people often succumb to manipulation, feeling they are unworthy of anyone else. But they DO have options and can prove to be popular."
Fat Character: "You're not good enough for me."
Abuser: "WH-!?!?"
Fat Character: *fucking laughs in her face* "and I can tell that when I reminded you of the times I satisfied you more than the reverse, you did not fucking like it"
Me: "Abusers are often very insecure."
Abuser: "WH-!?!?"
Fat Character: *fucking laughs in her face* "and I can tell that when I reminded you of the times I satisfied you more than the reverse, you did not fucking like it"
Me: "Abusers are often very insecure."
Fat Character: *returns to her gf to tell her about the utter destruction she laid down on her former abuser*
Her GF: *super proud of her gf, showers her with praise and validation, badly wants it and asks if that's okay*
Me: "She deserves true love and it's out there."
Her GF: *super proud of her gf, showers her with praise and validation, badly wants it and asks if that's okay*
Me: "She deserves true love and it's out there."
Addendum:
Common Respectful People: *when depicting fat characters, depicts their fatness but either downplays it or tries to hide it underneath their clothes to the point that they just look wide*
Me: "This is the coward's way too. Implies fat is something to be ashamed of."
Common Respectful People: *when depicting fat characters, depicts their fatness but either downplays it or tries to hide it underneath their clothes to the point that they just look wide*
Me: "This is the coward's way too. Implies fat is something to be ashamed of."
Me: "It implies that the correct way to dress as a fat person is in ways that downplay one's fatness. This is only done to minimize abuse from a fatphobic society. Again, this is the abusers' fault, and the people most often doing this are themselves abused fat people."
Fucking Dipshits: "Attraction to a fat person's fat body is a fetish"
Me: "Yet you call attraction to thin people's thin bodies healthy and normal. Implying fat is ugly and the only genuine attraction fat people receive is attraction in spite of their fatness. Shut the fuck up."
Me: "Yet you call attraction to thin people's thin bodies healthy and normal. Implying fat is ugly and the only genuine attraction fat people receive is attraction in spite of their fatness. Shut the fuck up."
Fucking Dipshits: "Okay, maybe so, but if you are only attracted to fat bodies, that is a fetish."
Me: "Exact same issue. Attraction to only thin bodies gets to call itself normal. Implies that even though we know people have a type, fat body types don't get to be included."
Me: "Exact same issue. Attraction to only thin bodies gets to call itself normal. Implies that even though we know people have a type, fat body types don't get to be included."
Fucking Dipshits: "We are just trying to shame fat chasers."
Me: "Yet not to protect fat people. Abuse is not defined in the attraction, it's in the way people treat those they are attracted to. Your outrage encourages people to keep their attraction secret, ENCOURAGING abuse."
Me: "Yet not to protect fat people. Abuse is not defined in the attraction, it's in the way people treat those they are attracted to. Your outrage encourages people to keep their attraction secret, ENCOURAGING abuse."
I have a lot of feelings about this. I am sick to death of having to downplay or keep my own attraction to fat people AS A FAT PERSON a secret because fucking dipshits can't tell the difference between chubby chasing and true love.
