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The Master Life 'Hack' to Solve All Problems
The Master Life 'Hack' to Solve All Problems
What's easier?
Developing psychology & exerting willpower to not eat a pantry full of your favorite snacks
or
Not having those temptations in the house
Many 'solutions' being presented to people don't work
Designed to cope with the problem instead of resolving it
Developing psychology & exerting willpower to not eat a pantry full of your favorite snacks
or
Not having those temptations in the house
Many 'solutions' being presented to people don't work
Designed to cope with the problem instead of resolving it
Darkness is the absence of light
You can't resolve or remove the darkness
You can only add more light
Recent viral obsessions with 'healing', 'being stoic', 'mental models & psychology'
They all serve their place AFTER the root has been handled
You can't resolve or remove the darkness
You can only add more light
Recent viral obsessions with 'healing', 'being stoic', 'mental models & psychology'
They all serve their place AFTER the root has been handled
Before adding things to increase testosterone, remove what inhibits it
Before adding 'hacks', remove things causing conflict
If a person fears confrontation & is not assertive
Techniques & thinking offer some support, but the real question is
Why is this the default behavior?
Before adding 'hacks', remove things causing conflict
If a person fears confrontation & is not assertive
Techniques & thinking offer some support, but the real question is
Why is this the default behavior?
Without starting with this question
All solutions are merely Band-Aids to mask & cope with the symptoms
In reality the real root of his fear of asserting himself & confrontation may likely be:
All solutions are merely Band-Aids to mask & cope with the symptoms
In reality the real root of his fear of asserting himself & confrontation may likely be:
1) Chemical stress from too much caffeine & trash foods. Spiking heart rate, cortisol, adrenals
These max-out the bandwidth available for discomfort,
Therefore there is no more available room to take on additional discomfort (confrontation/assertiveness)
These max-out the bandwidth available for discomfort,
Therefore there is no more available room to take on additional discomfort (confrontation/assertiveness)
2) Perceived Stress - discomfort/uncertainty in his finances & physical strength create a perception
Which further maxes out the bandwidth for uncertainty tolerance & discomfort tolerance
So again we can ask
What is more effective?
Which further maxes out the bandwidth for uncertainty tolerance & discomfort tolerance
So again we can ask
What is more effective?
Memorizing, faking, and 'doing' assertive techniques
OR
- Fixing the chemical stress
- Developing physical strength
- Getting on top of his finances
To actually BE more certain, confident, and assertive
Due to having bandwidth available for discomfort/uncertainty tolerance
OR
- Fixing the chemical stress
- Developing physical strength
- Getting on top of his finances
To actually BE more certain, confident, and assertive
Due to having bandwidth available for discomfort/uncertainty tolerance
Techniques & 'hacks' give the illusion of being easier
But it's something you must do consciously & constantly
Like always remembering to stand up straight for good posture
vs developing muscles/flexibility to have good posture as your default
without 'doing' anything
But it's something you must do consciously & constantly
Like always remembering to stand up straight for good posture
vs developing muscles/flexibility to have good posture as your default
without 'doing' anything
The core message of what is being said here is
Instead of applying a technique or 'hack' to compensate for something
Resolve the deficiency itself which then makes your default expression the optimal one
Instead of applying a technique or 'hack' to compensate for something
Resolve the deficiency itself which then makes your default expression the optimal one
Mens dating advice has grown rapidly in recent years
They share many great points which help people
However, pretty much everything shared articulates qualities expressed on how you would act
IF the root issue was not there
They share many great points which help people
However, pretty much everything shared articulates qualities expressed on how you would act
IF the root issue was not there
Neediness for example
Instead of having to do techniques or consciously calculate how to not look needy
....actually develop a life in which you got other sht going on
Multiple sources of good emotions
Multiple emotions for fun & excitement
Important tasks keeping you busy
Instead of having to do techniques or consciously calculate how to not look needy
....actually develop a life in which you got other sht going on
Multiple sources of good emotions
Multiple emotions for fun & excitement
Important tasks keeping you busy
Point of this thread is not to discredit the conscious understanding of behaviors
It's to set primary orientation to actually BECOME the person who exhibits those behaviors
Implementing strategy as a secondary layer (back-up)
NOT as the primary mode of artificial operation
It's to set primary orientation to actually BECOME the person who exhibits those behaviors
Implementing strategy as a secondary layer (back-up)
NOT as the primary mode of artificial operation
Be the truth
Thank you for reading
Cheers
- Yous
Thank you for reading
Cheers
- Yous
