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Somebody on here said before how most men can’t handle/don’t deserve non-monogamy, and I’m sorry but it’s true. If they’re not emotionally intelligent and mature, they think that just means they can fuck anything without getting in trouble lol. And that’s not what non-monogamy is
It’s actually caring for and making multiple women happy, not deceiving one and leaving all others feeling completely unfulfilled and disrespected. But they’re often too afraid/lazy/stuck in toxic monogamy patterns to try building real connections with multiple people
Now those connections might look different with each person, but it’s more than just “winning” or “getting sex.” When presented with freedom and options, they tend to want to leave the women with none, lying to those who believe in monogamy and wasting the time of those who don’t
Usually non-monogamous people are just trying to figure out what you’d like the connection to be like. Sometimes that’s just the two of you committed to each other, sometimes not. They just want to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you to decide...
So they’ll spend time trying to figure out how to adjust and make it work, how much or how little to prioritize them, what they’ll be in each other’s lives, etc., but they never can quite pinpoint it because the guy is so used to the “normal” ways of monogamy...
So the non-monogamous women kinda get the run-around until they figure out it was less about non-monogamy and more about sex lol. And the funny thing is it’s because toxic monogamy taught these men that they better not just come out and say that.
So those are my 4am thoughts
So those are my 4am thoughts
