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why do kids get in trouble for grunting out of frustraiton?
this is a sincere question..
like..does it serve a purpose other than holding power?
it's a non-word expression of someone's state of being
where does "attitude" stop, and where does communication begin? what in filtering "attitude" is gained?
i have none of the answers
like..does it serve a purpose other than holding power?
it's a non-word expression of someone's state of being
where does "attitude" stop, and where does communication begin? what in filtering "attitude" is gained?
i have none of the answers
I've also seen how stuff like this can significantly negatively impact nonspeaking & minimally speaking kids.
so, i'm just swirling in my mind rn
so, i'm just swirling in my mind rn
like, is there a way that we can acknowledge unhappy gestures/sounds without seeing it as a threat or challenge?
could it just be communication?
if respect is a value, how can that be woven into it?
kids being punished for feeling is a problem
could it just be communication?
if respect is a value, how can that be woven into it?
kids being punished for feeling is a problem
also, reflecting on how this is set up around teachers & such just as much as I am reflecting on parenting.
grunting can even be a way to ..well.. stim/process/cope with over/underwhelming things, even if you are persistent to engage in the given activity (like in classrooms).
grunting can even be a way to ..well.. stim/process/cope with over/underwhelming things, even if you are persistent to engage in the given activity (like in classrooms).
especially since "use your words" is hella ableist most times
fear & suppression are not how healthy boundaries are learned. And remember, boundaries encompass everything from the way we see ourselves to the way we recognize when something is unsafe & how to respond to that.
anger & frustration are also generally very bad things to hide. these are things that should be encouraged to be healthily expressed, & that's even more beneficial when folk know that they have the permission to *feel* & come back to speak about it when they're ready.
i understand that it can be unsafe for kids to openly feel in the outside world, & that can be a point of conversation you can have with them as well, but they (and people in general) need a safe place to be & come back to.
like, how folk say that some kids act the "worse" around folk they trust. that's an opportunity to engage with them, & help build bridges & understanding.
like, fr, we were put into this earth clueless & most of kids interactions seems to be punishment of that cluelessness.
like, fr, we were put into this earth clueless & most of kids interactions seems to be punishment of that cluelessness.
I would rather have someone healthily understand "sometimes we have to do things we don't like" rather than "i have to do things that i don't like & i have no agency in that" (coming from the whole "you're going to do this this AND you're going to like it)
again, i'm not saying that there inherently is mal-intent behind how this is usually played out..but that doesn't mean that there isn't a ripple effect.
being mindful of how this can specifically impact ND & non/minimally speaking folk.
being mindful of how this can specifically impact ND & non/minimally speaking folk.
there is also a lot of ties in how truama & teaching interact.
