I guess I’ve never really related to ppl or exes being trauma or major losses bc I am literally just living my life. And in life, I’m not naive enough to believe most ppl are acting out of their best selves bc a lot of ppl don’t know themselves.

I don’t believe in or believe ppl more than I believe myself. I am eternally logged in to my own internal conversation & great path. So there’s need to internalize any outside validations or relationships before myself. Bc I know how I feel. I know what I see. I’m never confused.

I’ve always known myself very well but I’ve also traveled the world and experience life in many different relationship with different types of people so being shady, ghosting, insecurity, cheating, break ups is not an actual traumatic event. Bc it’s usually not about me-it’s them

And this is not to deflect from self accountability but when you really do know yourself and you are solid- you can see better when you are dealing with people that they have issues that are unrelated to you.

So actions that they take are not always your fault. It’s their insecurities. Maybe that you unconsciously triggered & they reacted(the basis of most breakups IMO). But handle them how you feel is truly the best for you.

Just look at these conversations about the inner prejudices that people hold when they are discussing dates. They’re all types of these little things that play a factor in the mindset of the people that we are all dealing with. So I don’t internalize it because people are a mess.