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When someone points out a factor or quality that's potentially toxic, or is toxic in its entirety, in a relationship - the point behind that is to ensure people don't go through what they went through.
But this is often misunderstood by a large fraction of people.
But this is often misunderstood by a large fraction of people.
The dialogue beging toxicity is important to ensure that the number of people falling for it unknowingly decreases to nil.
The signs and symptoms, and experiences each person faced, helps one understand where they stand and what to do about it.
The signs and symptoms, and experiences each person faced, helps one understand where they stand and what to do about it.
My cousin sister narrated an incident to me, and I immediately told her that's gaslighting - she didn't even know what that meant and I had to explain it to her. (For context, she's older than me by a lot)
She was a victim of gaslighting, and she didn't even know.
She was a victim of gaslighting, and she didn't even know.
She got more clarity when I explained things to her. And that helped her.
The same way, when anyone talks about power imbalance, grooming, gaslighting, sabotage possessiveness etc - rather than telling them to mind their own business, try to understand why they are doing so.
The same way, when anyone talks about power imbalance, grooming, gaslighting, sabotage possessiveness etc - rather than telling them to mind their own business, try to understand why they are doing so.
This is not to impose anyone's thoughts or control over your relationship. It's their attempt to make you understand a part of reality. This may or may not be applicable to you. But the knowledge of it, will definitely save a life.
My classmate died by hanging after her relationship which started when she was in 8th grade, ended badly when the man (he was much older) refused to marry her without dowry. She lived her life since she was 13, dreaming of this man.
Had she known any better, her life would have been saved.
Many go into toxic relationships without knowing better. Covered under the tag of love and care, many are abused brutally by their partners.
Many go into toxic relationships without knowing better. Covered under the tag of love and care, many are abused brutally by their partners.
My friends know someone's boyfriend who justified Asif Ali's character in Uyare on Facebook.
Even after they told her how toxic he is, all that happened was that she stopped interacting with them.
Even after they told her how toxic he is, all that happened was that she stopped interacting with them.
Now if any of you feel my friends shouldn't have gone and adviced her, and should have let her be with her toxic friends - I don't know what's going on in your head, but you need to check yourself.
I repeat : the point is not to impose ones thoughts and ideas on another. It's about helping a few understand what's potentially dangerous. It might not always be the case, but it surely is problematic for a lot of people.
What seems like an issue, may not be in some cases -- and that's great!
But never stop the dialogue around this. You don't know who's read g your experiences and taking the decision to cut the toxicity in their life, or avoiding such a pit.
But never stop the dialogue around this. You don't know who's read g your experiences and taking the decision to cut the toxicity in their life, or avoiding such a pit.
