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i really don't think it's doing an ageism to tell people to stay out of the fire if they can't take the heat
go socialize somewhere else. get a private account. join a discord with rules that make you feel comfortable. play a minor-friendly mmo and learn how to handle internet drama from your guild or something. there are kiddie pools available if you need them so fucking bad
people will make a certain amount of effort to try to avoid harming you with things like tags and using keywords they expect people with triggers to mute and warnings and stuff but there's a certain point where your feelings and reactions are your own fucking problem
this includes the "it's your job to coddle the kids who were screaming at molly" discourse but there's also just a lot of "it's your job to protect my feelings" going around lately that goes in a direction that expects everyone to bring down what they're talking about to 1 level
whether it's "i need you to stop criticizing the thing i like" or "stop saying 'queer'" or "don't call yourself slurs" or "you have to behave as the spokesperson for leftism" or "don't make jokes about your marginalization that i don't get"
you have to deal with the fact that some people? you won't like them. some content? not for you. it's no one's job to dull themselves down for you, to make themselves paletable, to give you 101, to expose their vulnerabilities, or to perform their marginalizations.
here's the good part: you don't owe anyone that shit either!
also: it's no one's job to listen to you! it's no one's job to put up with your shit! it's no one's job to read every 40 page callout you inevitably sourced from weird stalker websites! it's no one's job to look things up for you!
it's no one's job to not block you even if all you did was be mildly annoying! it's no one's job to explain to you why they don't want to be your friend!
also it's not people's job not to burst your bubble that your relationship with them is parasocial
i think a thing people don't realize when interacting on this website generally is that once you get past about 3,000 followers a massive amount of the response you get is people who can't be fucking normal, or just inane
past about 500-2,000, depending on your axes of marginalizations, enough of it is people who are being rude, harassing you, or just general meanness. people tend to get defensive after dealing with that shit. it's wise to know that going in
sorry to be so fucking negative. there's a lot of good stuff i like and people i like to talk to.
but we are all very tired and frustrated and the completely unreasonable expectations from people who cannot behave themselves like they are talking to humans who see them as total strangers when they are in fact doing that is making all of us lose our shit.
i am extremely hesitant to label this "callout culture" or "cancel culture" because that's usually just what people say when their favorite sex pest gets outed and not like, the actual problems with cycles of disposability
