I'm listening in on a convo on CH about why relationships are so hard and it got me thinking about this feeling that I've had since I was 18. I *always* just wanted the ultimate fairy tail: to find my life partner, get married, and start our life together (thread)

but when I consider all the past iterations of myself, my innate tendencies, and reflect on why each of my past relationships failed, I discover how much more learning and growing had to and still has to happen before I am ready for my final relationship to actualize

when I look inward and consider why I have the boundaries or standards that I do, I remind myself that those are there for a reason. if I didn't adhere to those boundaries, I would be an extremely unhappy person today, not the fun-loving, energetic, aligned person that you know

so, if you are grappling with this battle with yourself and the universe, too, think about the person that you were when you *thought* you found "the one" and how much that person differs from who you are now and how necessary that growth probably was!

*tale Jesus