There is a service to "self" & there is service to "others"
You cannot be all in one, there has to be a mix

Too much self creates jealousy, sloth, & Uncle Scrooge
Too much others prevents you from taking care of yourself & indirectly others

What is the gain -that is A question

Is the gain self, or "more" including others
Regardless of what it is
Is it via love or hate, OR indifference
Is it directed at those who intentionally do ILL
Is it as those who 'go along' in order to survive,
OR they have no choice?
Also, are you learning from the experience

FREEDOM of CHOICE !
LIVE and LET LIVE
DO no harm, if NO harm come to THEE
If you can let it slide, Let it GO!
It does not prevent you from living, it's just a pimple on a fly's ass.