It’s funny how people are encouraged to mourn and be upset over all the other shit that went down this year, but not the fact that they gained weight. Which can have a tremendous impact on their lives, including financial.

Buying a new wardrobe for instance

I just think that it Such’s when people talk about this stuff and are immediately shut down, especially because you don’t know if they have eating disorders.

Or maybe weight gain is tied to mental health for them, lots of people gain weight when they’re depressed and..

It hurts bc it’s a reminder of their internal pain.

Idk. This part of the internet needs to let people be human, and not 24/7 social justice warriors immersed in theory

I see the same thing with productivity. People are like “don’t you dare feel sad if you weren’t productive! We’re in a ducking pandemic and the government is not taking care of us, focus on the STRUCTURAL!”

Ok yes but people are allowed to weep for lost goals?

It almost feels like adding another layer of shame. They feel sad that these things have happened and then y’all kinda make them feel ashamed for being sad about it.

Idk. I have friends who have struggled for years to lose weight and finally did and with quarantine, have really been having a hard time. And have posted on insta about their determination to get back on their routine. It feels weird that if they did that on Twitter..

Y’all would yell at them for being violent. When I’ve seen them struggle and weep and be teased and overlooked, and I see the pain they’re in. All of this , of course... is structural. But how are you going to bully people about the structural without having empathy

For what’s inside their souls, their hearts, their minds?

I hate to be so “woo-woo” here but maybe instead of yelling at these people, you can just send them thoughts and hugs and say that they’re beautiful no matter what but you understand that it hurts, and it sucks that...

Society makes them hurt so much more? Maybe you can just pray for them, if that’s your thing? Maybe you can just scroll on by?

Also think about how many people are alone right now, and social media is their main community. That community can’t constantly berate them for not reading enough?!?