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Hey I don't want to touch a discussion involving people I do not know, and do not know where perhaps actual beefs may lie.
I can tell you as a PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX that injuries to the head which cause substantial bruising and swelling are not benign injuries and ...
I can tell you as a PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX that injuries to the head which cause substantial bruising and swelling are not benign injuries and ...
such 'play' is a red flag and dangerous.
It can be hard ...especially for those not into kink...to understand pain play v. actual harm.
That's why professionals often take CLASSES in this shit believe it or not.
Why?
It can be hard ...especially for those not into kink...to understand pain play v. actual harm.
That's why professionals often take CLASSES in this shit believe it or not.
Why?
Because even SPANKING someone can be dangerous if you don't know what the fuck you're doing and you hit a kidney instead.
It's okay to like pain play. It's okay to like humilation.
It's not okay to endanger yourself or others for it. It's also not needful.
It's okay to like pain play. It's okay to like humilation.
It's not okay to endanger yourself or others for it. It's also not needful.
And often professionals are critical of it for two reasons.
First the actual and substantial harms that can happen.
Two, it pushes a window for what people think BDSM 'play' is and they don't understand why you cannot and will not give them a shiner (black eye)
First the actual and substantial harms that can happen.
Two, it pushes a window for what people think BDSM 'play' is and they don't understand why you cannot and will not give them a shiner (black eye)
I know how to hurt people. I am very good at it. I can hurt you physically or psychologically.
I'm VERY mindful when doing both.
If I ...say...punch you in the face to give you a shiner? Can I guarantee I won't break your orbital socket?
I'm VERY mindful when doing both.
If I ...say...punch you in the face to give you a shiner? Can I guarantee I won't break your orbital socket?
What about a retinal tear? Can I promise you that I won't...literally...blind you?
Or a concussion? God, you wanna talk about nightmares, concussions are no fucking joke, they're TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURIES folx.
Or a concussion? God, you wanna talk about nightmares, concussions are no fucking joke, they're TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURIES folx.
And, when professionals are like 'uh...whoa...this is bad'
It's a good clue to step back and maaaaaybe listen.
Before I have to read a news story about how stupid muggles emulated DANGEROUS BDSM and face more regulations thanks :P
It's a good clue to step back and maaaaaybe listen.
Before I have to read a news story about how stupid muggles emulated DANGEROUS BDSM and face more regulations thanks :P
PS: If these things hold interest for you, a good place for virtual classes is KinkAcademy, which is run by professionals.
