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Lotta hate going around for demisexuality right now. If you support demis, please say so. Or RT this, if you want. We are here. And we could use some support today, judging from what my search just turned up.
Well this blew up. 
Remember to be kind, folx. If you get shitty trolls in your comments, never be afraid of the block button.
Remember to be kind, folx. If you get shitty trolls in your comments, never be afraid of the block button.
Hereâs my link tree if youâre interested- Iâve written (and am continuing to) a few things on demisecuality, graysexuality, & asexuality. I also have two YouTube channels. And if you want to support me I have a Patreon (long term) & kofi (one time) https://linktr.ee/secretladyspider
Also keep getting asked âwhat is demisexualityâ and thatâs fair - itâs not something everyone knows! Very basically demisexuality is a sexual orientation under the asexual umbrella in which we do not experience sexual attraction of any kind unless a close emotional bond is 1/
formed. This bond can be romantic or platonic. This bond may take several months to form & include sexual attraction, one month, or years. It varies from demi to demi. A demisexual may have any romantic orientation- meaning we can be gay, lesbian, bi, pan, or even aromantic. 2/
We may or may not have high libido (drive for sexual pleasure). We may or may not have sex. We even may or may not have casual sex! We may or may not be monogamous or polyamorous. We may or may not enjoy sex - aces have many different attitudes on sex. 3/
The most common misconceptions are 1) that demisexuality is about not wanting to have casual sex and that 2) itâs about shaming people who have lots of sex. Iâve talked about the casual sex part already. The second thing - this is also not what demisexuality is. 4/
Demisexuals may have varying views on the sexual behavior of other people, but this isnât what demisexuality itself is. Every demi I currently know legitimately doesnât care how much sex other people are having as long as itâs consensual between all parties. 5/
I made a little thread with some more reading today if youâre interested:
6/ https://twitter.com/scretladyspider/status/1343219649048096769
6/ https://twitter.com/scretladyspider/status/1343219649048096769
Also if youâre reading this wondering if you are demisexual - maybe! Only you can know for sure. You know yourself best. But hereâs something I hope will help: https://link.medium.com/PqePRBbTycb
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I hope this helps clear up some confusion Iâve been seeing. For more info on asexuality, aromanticism, and related topics I would also recommend @soundsfakepod @thedemisexual @asexuality @aromantic_aurea @chengela @DavidJBradley1 @SockfaceSimpson @theyasminbenoit @LiamODellUK 8/
@GlasgowAce @asexualACES @AsexualsNet @BlueArmyMan117 @hobis_pouch @bobbins_h @luvtheheaven @ace_aro_life @TAAAP_org @AcesNYC @QueerlyHazel @Jenna_DeWitt @AOKPodcast @SliceOfAce @ope_im_gay @mattps139 @azejournal @x_269 @Jenna_DeWitt @aceweek @AceGentle 9/
There are so many but those are all great!
All this to say - thank you for being willing to learn! And for the outpouring of support last night! It means so much. I hope this helps explain some things! Again, thank you!
All this to say - thank you for being willing to learn! And for the outpouring of support last night! It means so much. I hope this helps explain some things! Again, thank you!
One last thing: please donât conflate demisexuality with being more emotionally mature than other people. There is nothing wrong with sex without an emotional connection. Thereâs nothing wrong with being an aromantic allosexual (not ace). Itâs not about maturity.
Itâs about how sexual attraction is formed. Itâs not about being more or less mature, or not having casual sex, or anything like that. Please donât use demisexuality to shame aromantics or anyone who enjoys sex without emotional commitment. Thank you.
Iâm afraid I do have to mute this - there are so many of you! - but please read whatâs above & feel free to ask each other in the comments about things. You can also send me a DM - I will try to respond but please understand if I donât itâs just because I need space too!
It can just be a bit overwhelming sometimes. But Iâll try! I will.
