Thread by @No_Xtra0rdinary, 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚Whenever people hear of childhood trauma they always default to thinking [...]

𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚
Whenever people hear of childhood trauma they always default to thinking trauma is severe abuse or bullying as a child or some sort of intense experience.

Every time childhood trauma is mentioned to someone, their default response is “Oh no that can’t be me, my parents/childhood was good. I was never abused etc.”
They fail to realise 4 key things:
𝟏. Childhood trauma can occur from the most insignificant events in childhood:

The ONE time someone laughed at you for stating your opinion and now you never do

The ONE time someone said you have a weird laugh and now you’re self-conscious about your laughter

The ONE time someone said you’re not good enough and now that has become your

identity and you play small
𝟐. Even if your parents were good you had to leave the house at some point and there’s a high chance you interacted with someone who planted the seeds of childhood trauma/faulty conditioning, such as...

You look a bit fat in that dress

You’re not as good as your other sibling

You’re a bit weird for doing XYZ

-
𝟑. Most of it is out of your awareness

There’s what you know

There’s what you know you don’t know

There’s what you don’t know you don’t know.

It’s what you don’t know you don’t know that is at the cause of a lot of your suffering

-
𝟒. There’s such a thing as generational trauma which is passed on to you from your parent.
The following is a non-comprehensive list of possible signs...

T͟h͟e͟ ͟o͟b͟v͟i͟o͟u͟s͟ ͟s͟i͟g͟n͟s͟ ͟y͟o͟u͟ ͟a͟r͟e͟ ͟c͟a͟r͟r͟y͟i͟n͟g͟ ͟c͟h͟i͟l͟d͟h͟o͟o͟d͟ ͟t͟r͟a͟u͟m͟a͟:͟

Depression and Anxiety

Other mood/eating disorders

Suicidal thoughts

Chronic low self-esteem

T͟h͟e͟ ͟n͟o͟t͟ ͟s͟o͟ ͟o͟b͟v͟i͟o͟u͟s͟ ͟s͟i͟g͟n͟s͟ ͟y͟o͟u͟ ͟a͟r͟e͟ ͟c͟a͟r͟r͟y͟i͟n͟g͟ ͟c͟h͟i͟l͟d͟h͟o͟o͟d͟ ͟t͟r͟a͟u͟m͟a͟:

𝘗𝘴𝘺𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘧..

Being alone

Not being good enough

Never reaching your potential

Failure

Vulnerability/intimacy

-
𝘕𝘦𝘶𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘴:

You always self-attack, self-hate or criticise yourself

You overthink a lot

A bad haircut/no make-up will stop you from leaving the house

You run out of things to say/awkward when talking to an opposite sex

you find attractive, around high status people, during job interviews etc.
𝘕𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘣𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨:

Compulsive people pleasing

Inability to say ‘no’ or set boundaries (people walk all over U)

You seem to always attract toxic/unavailable

partners (physically, mentally and emotionally)
𝘊𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨/𝘦𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘮𝘴:

U can’t stop overeating

U constantly procrastinate as an escape

U lack motivation to do things in the day

Confused about what you are doing with your life (no purpose)

-
𝘋𝘺𝘴𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 - 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦..

Self-doubt and fluctuating self-esteem (self-worth attached to results)

Situational confidence - your confidence changes depending on what you are doing or who you are with

Situational happiness - NEEDING to do or have something to be happy

Denial of all the aforementioned traits
This is not an exhaustive list. But, U must realise all these patterns & much more that are troubling you can be traced back to childhood trauma/faulty conditioning.

Its strange that people actually live with these patterns. They think it’s normal to live like this and have even developed clever rationalisations, coping mechanisms and formed their identity around all these neurotic patterns.
The good news is that you can actually free

yourself from all this, & I mean free yourself, not learn another technique to cope with them.
It's entirely up to U to either do the necessary work to live a happier life or U can take the easy route like most ppl & escape into Netflix, Twitter compulsive shopping or medication!

Latest Threads Unrolled: