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Message to those that are Alone, Grieving, and/or Heartbroken Today. (Please Share)
I see you. I am you. I was you.
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I see you. I am you. I was you.
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1. Give yourself a pass to grieve. Grief can't be wrapped up in 7 business days. Whomever gave you that impression never truly loved and lost someone. Your grief is NOT a weakness, but rather a testament to how deeply you loved them.
2. LET IT OUT- Tears are like toxins that need to come out your system.
3. For those that have passed on... they never leave us. Meditate on this and then start talking to them. Think about it... if the roles were revered would you leave them?
3. For those that have passed on... they never leave us. Meditate on this and then start talking to them. Think about it... if the roles were revered would you leave them?
4. For those that are mourning lost relationships-- it hurts now but it would've hurt more if they would have stayed. Letting go of relationships that aren't a "fit" can be extra challenging. My favorite quote: If you spent more time crying, than smiling... its time to move on.
5. Grief is not the end, its the BEGINNING- The more you stay in the past, the harder it is to move forward. Think about it this way... your loved ones had a mission and so do you. No one has the same mission or deadline.
(cont) Each of us pass on something to someone else to help with the mission at hand. Honor your loved ones by continuing on with your mission. What did you love most about them? Take that and play it forward... thats how you move forward by carrying on their legacy.
6. Don't Make Permanent Decisions while in the thick of your grief-- DON'T shave your head, sell or purchase property, START or PARTICIPATE in fights, pick up hard drugs, don't consistently turn to liquor to ease the pain. DON'T come out of grief and walk straight into regrets.
7. Ambush Grief- when you don't deal with the grief and move on as if nothing happened. One day you're outside and at the most inopportune time the tears start coming out of your eyes. Panic attack coming in... 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Yeaaa, thats a thing. Find a grounding exercise.
8. Consider grief counseling. If you get to the point where you say to yourself "I am tired of being sad" please consider this option. There is individual counseling & group grief therapy... I used GriefShare. Also, there are countless resources online.
9. Sing, Pray, Love-- I removed the food piece b/c you're not trying to come out of this fat... pick a struggle. Music therapy can be a great way to lift your spirits. When my ex broke my heart I listened to fucc girl music. Lil Kim, Mary J Blidge... they helped me to heal.
10. Today is the holiday that you associate with being in their presence. Today is really hard. I am crying while typing this. I deeply love and miss Effie, Leslie, Edwin, Bobby... friends Raijean, Peter and now Jaz. (cont)
But this is not sadness for me... I am so blessed to have them even when they are not physically here. They are whats good inside of me. Who are you mourning for today? Say their names out loud... honor them by sharing their stories.
I love you.
Merry Christmas.
I love you.
Merry Christmas.
