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subtle biphobia you might not even realise you’re encouraging: a thread
I just want to start off by saying that I am a bisexual woman myself, so these are all things I have either experienced first hand or have witnessed my bisexual friends experience.
so first of all there are the obvious ones, such as saying that it’s just a phase, that we’re following a trend, that we should pick a side, that we’re being greedy etc etc
saying things like ‘oh ur bi? ew imagine liking men haha if only u were lesbian’ — this pushes the idea that we aren’t ‘gay’ enough or true members of the lgbtq+ community, even if you mean it as a joke (not to mention how this also invalidates mlm)
‘she’s gonna end up as a lesbian’ ‘he’s going to end up gay’ — bisexuality is NOT a midway point between being heterosexual and homosexual. I could only date men for the rest of my life and still be bi. I’m not gonna ‘end up’ anything other than bi
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you don’t have to outwardly say ‘you must love threesomes’ to hyper-sexualise us. trust me, we see those looks you get when we tell you we’re bi. we know what you’re thinking — that quick glance over to your friend/partner isn’t as subtle as you might think.
you don’t have to outwardly say ‘you must love threesomes’ to hyper-sexualise us. trust me, we see those looks you get when we tell you we’re bi. we know what you’re thinking — that quick glance over to your friend/partner isn’t as subtle as you might think.
if we have homophobic parents, saying we’re lucky because ‘at least we can marry someone of the opposite sex’ is not a compliment!! it just further invalidates us because you are stating that we can pick and choose who we fall in love with, and therefore that we are ‘greedy’
let’s say a man and a woman were married for 40 years, then divorce and later the woman marries another woman. if she used to love her ex-husband, she is not a ‘late in life lesbian’ — she is bisexual and we need to stop pretending like bisexuality is something you grow out of.
straight girls, I’m looking at you for this one: ‘I could never date a bisexual man. the fact that he could have had sex with another man before? ew’ ... surely you see the issue here. I shouldn’t even need to explain.
and then, the opposite: boys, please don’t treat bi girls as your little play things — I hate hate hate the fetishisation of wlw!! I’m sick of it!! fuck off!!
‘all women are a little bit bi, especially when they’ve had a few drinks’ : this eroticizes and hypersexualises women for the straight male gaze, and again, makes those who identify as bi feel as though they aren’t true members of the lgbtq+ community.
call me sensitive, call me dramatic, I don’t care — I am bisexual and I am TELLING you that these things hurt me and other bisexuals. stop fucking invalidating us. you don’t have to be physically hatecriming us for you to be biphobic. please do better!!
