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Many relationships have ended this year and your first Christmas alone can be really tough.
It is okay to avoid celebrating if that's easier, or to find new ways to celebrate that don't remind you of the past.
Having a break from social media (and your phone) may be good too /1
It is okay to avoid celebrating if that's easier, or to find new ways to celebrate that don't remind you of the past.
Having a break from social media (and your phone) may be good too /1
If you've got kids, they'll be struggling too, especially if Christmas plans have changed. They may be very withdrawn, tearful or challenging. There's help for anyone affected by separation and divorce at:
Gingerbread https://www.gingerbread.org.uk
Family Lives https://www.familylives.org.uk
Gingerbread https://www.gingerbread.org.uk
Family Lives https://www.familylives.org.uk
If you've ended your relationship but are still living together there's advice here: https://www.advicenow.org.uk/guides/survival-guide-living-together-and-breaking
It's common for Christmas and NY to be flashpoints in relationships, including ones where you've recently separated. Make plans for how to keep yourself calm and safe /3
It's common for Christmas and NY to be flashpoints in relationships, including ones where you've recently separated. Make plans for how to keep yourself calm and safe /3
Remember Christmas + relationship breakup + alcohol can be a really toxic mix. If you need help with your drinking @joinclubsoda have lots of good advice. Best to take it before the holidays get started, if you can.
If your relationship has ended and you didn't want it to, you will find Christmas has many hidden reminders (films, songs, meals, tree ornaments). Anything can, and will, set you off. It's okay to be really sad, angry or confused. If it's easier to tune out/switch off, do so.
You may also be tempted to make rash decisions over the holidays - perhaps to try and reconcile, beg for a second chance, or even 'accidentally' sleep together (we've all been there). Try, if you can, to make choices when sober and not during a highly emotional time
And if stuff happens, which it may well do, you can sort it out with the help of friends and family. Nobody is perfect, relationship break ups can be messy. More so in a pandemic and during a Christmas of bad news. Be gentle with yourself
Obviously there is a difference between impulsive decisions and outright abuse, if you're at risk or recovering from abuse there is support here https://nostartoguideme.com/dvisolation
It's not unusual for abuse to continue after separation, either directly, through third parties or social media
It's not unusual for abuse to continue after separation, either directly, through third parties or social media
