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If you do impact play or knife play or anything dangerous, you need to practice. Practice on yourself. Hit your palm with you'd paddle and see how hard it is. Practice aiming your whip. If you do bondage then practice knots and how to undo them. Why? Because if you're in a
scene and your sub says the safe word or feels unsafe , you have to be able to get them out of that situation and quickly. To traumatize someone because of your carelessness is selfish. On the topic of safe words, please use them. Some more safety measures include tapping out,
in case the sub can not speak. I'm saying sub but honestly, safe words are for dominants too. AFTERCARE is so insanely important. Dominants who don't at least offer it are fake. Scenes can get intense. For me, my sadism gets a bit out of hand sometimes. So I'll
give my submissive a nice warm bath. Cuddle for a bit, make sure their wounds are pretty much treated. Everyone's aftercare preference is different. I don't need aftercare. My aftercare comes from caring for the other person. Whether that means taking a shower, making them
something to eat or just words of affirmation. Fake dominants put the sub at risk. And as for submissives, don't think that you can get away from this either. Subs, you also have to do your research. I have/had the submissives I slept with do pain training on themselves.
For example, to practice orgasm control they should masturbate and try to hold back their orgasm. I ask my subs how much pain they can handle to make sure I don't overwhelm them. Make sure to ask for consent and make sure that they're comfortable and that they feel safe.
Do your research before you experiment. Be safe. If i ever hear from a friend of mine that you put them in danger, I will be on your ass, believe me. You will be hearing from me and the words will not be of affirmation, I can assure you. Educate yourself. SSC
That was the thread^^
also, this needs to be said. Uneducated kinksters are dangerous.
also, this needs to be said. Uneducated kinksters are dangerous.
Added to this. Respect people's boundaries and triggers. If your partner(s) is uncomfortable with something, you avoid it. Kink and just sex in general is a game for two. It's not just your satisfaction. It's your partner's as well.
