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I was talking to my friend today about how romance movies really perpetuate harmful relationship dynamics, e.g. poor communication, that forgive behavior that is straight up out of pocket and creepy af.
Shall we get into this?
Shall we get into this?
The Notebook: Two egotistical people that literally never sat down to have an honest dialogue about what their relationship really was.
Noah was creepy for "waiting" for someone who was definitely getting married to someone else. Also, why did he yell so much?
Noah was creepy for "waiting" for someone who was definitely getting married to someone else. Also, why did he yell so much?
Crazy Rich Asians: Mans didn't tell homegirl for a >1yr that he was rich and then just out of the blue said "lets fly first class to visit my parents who also don't know who you are". Also his mom was such an ass and he never *really* defended her so.... but Henry is fine yall.
Fifty Shades of Grey: Do I need to say anything? The entire relationship was trash. From start to finish.
The Proposal: An abusive workplace relationship becomes a real relationship because the boss uses coercion and blackmail to get her subordinate to marry her. That was literally the plot guys, wtf. (Also, a good movie)
Love and Basketball (one of my faves): A girl dates a guy who again has an ego problem and eventually feels some type of way about her focusing on her career and not him.
Eventually they end up together because he gets injured... not sure what would've happened if he went pro.
Eventually they end up together because he gets injured... not sure what would've happened if he went pro.
This Means War: A successful businesswoman successfully plays two men who were long-time friends successfully and then drops one because...*checks notes*... reasons. The guy she actually picked was a douche.
Twilight (requested): A very VERY VERY old guy literally grooms a teenage girl, becomes possessive of her, manipulates her, separates her from her family, then impregnates her with a baby that basically wants to kill her.
So...... that's a no from me dawg.
So...... that's a no from me dawg.
The Wedding Planner (J Lo version): Mans was looking to cheat on his wife before he met J Lo and then started spending waaaaaay too much time with the wedding planner and made the decision to be with her on the day of his wedding as douchebags do.
Titanic: A rich girl uses a poor guy for sex.... and then watches (and helps) him die.
For those saying that she would've married him, you're kidding yourself. She clearly wanted to live a certain lifestyle. She was bored on a ship and wanted action.
For those saying that she would've married him, you're kidding yourself. She clearly wanted to live a certain lifestyle. She was bored on a ship and wanted action.
Hitch: A relationship coach doesn't take his own relationship advice and it shows.
High School Musical: A guy meets a girl once and then becomes obsessed with her to the point that he sings with her everywhere she goes (even though she's clearly uncomfortable). Eventually, they graduate.
Love Actually: Nine different ways to botch relationships all tied neatly into a problematic bow. Every relationship either had poor communication, infidelity, problematic behavior or all three.
This scene alone is proof (she was with someone at the time who was INSIDE):
This scene alone is proof (she was with someone at the time who was INSIDE):
Enchanted: A very unaware woman falls out of another world and annoys the living shit out of a perfectly normal guy and his daughter by attracting wildlife into their house as well as being stalked by a guy with a sword who she doesn't even like.
Lol so in conclusion, I will continue to watch romantic movies because they're cute but also the dynamics they put forth are trash and you should absolutely not use these movies as a way to live your life.
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk :)
Thanks for coming to my TED Talk :)
@KekePalmer knew what was up with Rose and that damn door. https://twitter.com/chuuzus/status/1340337246566756355?s=20
For those who may be wondering, what is one example of an unproblematic romance movie? May I present:
This might be my most favorite thread of the year because I am such a romance movie fanatic but also I love breaking things down like this.
@threadreaderapp unroll please!
@threadreaderapp unroll please!
