A few weeks before my wedding, I started getting cold feet. I called my teacher and vented about all the possible things that could go wrong.

He scolded me. He told me there's no looking back. To go in with my 100%

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It bugs me when I see single people discussing marriage.

Many men are scared of trusting women. Many women are scared of trusting men.

How are you guys gonna go in with your 100% like this?

Any guy or a girl who isn't willing to give you their 100% is a red flag.

Yes, we take precautions. We do our research about the person. We involve our families and have many angles of support. And yes, if our partner is abusive we take the necessary steps.

But don't go in with less than a 100%. It will just end up being a self fulfilling prophecy

Another issue is "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus".

People want hard fast rules in dealing with the other gender. Besides the basic Islamic guidelines, a lot of it varies.

People are different. Stop looking for shortcuts. Your spouse isn't the same as your friends'

You're gonna need to put in the leg work and actually talk with your partner to see who they are and figure out a life for yourselves. And you can't do that if you are going in fifty percent.

Stop living off other people's traumas. Be vulnerable and build a life for yourselves.