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A thread on what to do and not to do when you’ve learnt that your friend has been accused of causing harm. This was created by @zoeboekbinder 
I personally stand by this because too many people suffer in silence because they’re afraid to be doubted and blamed. As a survivor, I 100% can relate and this is the best thing you can do #BelieveSurvivors.
Yeah we know, “my friend isn’t like that” but your friend maybe isn’t like that to YOU. Take a step back and think about the survivor. Accountability is for action and inaction, if you do nothing then guess what, you’re an enabler to the harm.
It’s hard to make sense of what you’ve just found out but remember the survivor is not at fault. The survivor isn’t ruining anyone’s life.
“So where the proof?” No one owes you anything. Survivors already been through enough- the harm itself and then having to tell the entire encounter.
Something to think about
Consequences > Punishment.
Remember accountability is about care and love. It is not forceful.
Remember accountability is about care and love. It is not forceful.
I’ve been thinking A LOT lately about justice and what it should look like. This is a great place to start.
Criminal Justice System:
Restorative Justice looks like:
Remember at the end of the day, how you feel is important. Not everything in this thread are my belief when it comes to the justice system. In fact, I’m still working my way through understanding and accepting the many moving parts of restorative justice.
At this point of my life, sexual violence is something that is very hard for me to come to terms with as it relates to punishment and restoration. I’m a growing and learning human being. Take your time too. 
