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I'd like to take this occasion to hijack this thot's argument (and MIGR excuses in the comments) and talk about polyamory and my recent exit from "sex-positive community". https://twitter.com/fingerbIaster/status/1339803350817153028
Back in the day (sometime between starting my socio-political life as an unironic cargo-cult-liberal and my currently ongoing descent into dank depths of basedness) I used to identify with polyamorous and BDSM communities.
It seemed fun and rebellious at the time, and a cool pose for a young horny nerd to strike to maximize potential for adventure.
Also, I really enjoy doing rope bondage and general soft-Dom stuff, both aesthetically and emotionally.
Also, I really enjoy doing rope bondage and general soft-Dom stuff, both aesthetically and emotionally.
The first alarm bell was trying to learn shibari in person. The "guru" was a recognizable type of new-age-y low-rent grifter. Half the audience were noticeably liberal urban young women in search for some spice in their life. This was ~year after Shades of Grey movie, mind you.
Accompanying them were their soy-looking beta boyfriends roped into the affair against their will. Some were trying their best at performative masculinity, and it was hilarious. In my book, failing to hoist your woman off the floor with 2:1 leverage pulley disqualifies a man.
The other half was bioleninism-lite: fat, pasty, possibly underage girls with unwashed neon-color hair and "sex-positive" attitude as part of their vague internet-lefty personas they wore as a set of pin-badges on their cheap backpacks.
I lucked out and got an aspiring-domme not-an-escort instathot as my training body. Shit was hilarious throughout, starting with me tying her mouth to stop the incessant commentary from the bottom.
Anyway, fun with ropes aside, the community struck me as mix of equal parts true and honest deviance, performative kink as personality substitute and politicized mental illness. And what you typically see in glamour shots is the first option with a side of pornography.
I shopped around for more aesthetically-pleasing company, got some more training, even attended a class from a visiting Japanese master. But at the end of the day it was more of the same: subculture of low quality misfits slowly invaded by wokeness via over-connected youth.
This was quite sad to me, because of all the "sex-positive" crowd, the BD\\Ds seemed to have the least unnatural mindset: a natural state of things, amplified and aestheticized to a fetish as a rebuttal to pervasive anti-hierarchy meme.
Few share that vision, and near the aesthetic top, it branches into a niche of meta-prostitution that blends into the expanding coomer mindset anyway.
It's almost like you have to have a complex and mature social structure before you can indulge in deviancy at its fringes...
It's almost like you have to have a complex and mature social structure before you can indulge in deviancy at its fringes...
Fast forward a few years and my cat is playing with my ropes way more often than I do. It's all so tiresome...
And the poly problem I mentioned ties into this.
And the poly problem I mentioned ties into this.
At the surface, there's an easy case for polyamory to be made by the more vitalist-inclined dissident right. @bronzeagemantis brags about his sex tourist exploits offhand, and @RationalMale's "spinning plates" theory can be extended beyond game.
In practice, as relationships deepen, mental and emotional costs of each one grow very fast, and it takes a lot of POWER to just hold more than one at a time at the same intensity. It's rewarding if you can pull that off, but very few can.
There's a limited amount of intimacy that a human life can contain. Even if you're a sex god. And the overhead keeps mounting.
Eventually, a hierarchy of attachment emerges, and a multi-party relationship collapses into a couple with some very close friends.
Eventually, a hierarchy of attachment emerges, and a multi-party relationship collapses into a couple with some very close friends.
All of the above is relevant to a man of power and integrity keeping multiple women on him while being completely up front about it with everybody. As you can imagine, this kind of setup is extremely rare. It definitely doesn't apply to a typical "polyamorous relationship"
What you see promoted on the internets as polyamory usually evaluates to a cell of gynocracy made out of second-rate human capital, more often than not with some truly disgusting degeneracy in the mix.
google "polyamory+child abuse" and behold
google "polyamory+child abuse" and behold
I feel that the difference between the kind of poly I describe (of which I've seen only a couple instances IRL) and the kind MSM is pushing comes down to the difference between trad and prog mindsets of participants.
One embraces and extends evolved social forms, respects hierarchy and eventually RETVRNS to based traditional marriage (maybe with some spice).
The other rejects the norm and hierarchy in chasing the instinct, and collapses into misery, custody battles and lawsuits.
The other rejects the norm and hierarchy in chasing the instinct, and collapses into misery, custody battles and lawsuits.
Which way, my friend?
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