realistically... after a certain age, it is counterproductive to make excuses for someone’s shitty behavior when you know that they knew better. they c h o s e to treat you like you were disposable... some things simply fall under the category of a lack of basic human decency.

you might be making excuses for them bc you love them & you aren’t ready to stop loving them. you might be making excuses bc you need to feel in control of the situation so you’re trying to convince yourself it’s not that bad. oh but it is, it’s bad okay.

if this person is consistently making you feel like SHIT about yourself all the while you know you’ve gone above & beyond to be a decent friend or partner to them then... what really is the point of continuing to put yourself through that torture.

you love them more than you love you. would u be fine w/ your best friend allowing someone in their life to shit on them everyday? would u tell them it’s fine! they don’t mean it! they’re just going thru stuff, hang in there eventually they’ll come around take a few more punches.

regardless of whatever the fuck the reason is, you were not put on this earth to be someone’s punching bag. you were not put on this earth to try and heal others at YOUR EXPENSE. keyword at YOUR EXPENSE.

if you cannot physically, emotionally and physically thrive while helping people then what is the fucking point? to be a martyr? if someone came to your mind while you read this thread then that speaks volumes & may be something you can address within yourself today.

what is preventing you from setting a healthy boundary w this person?
why do you feel responsible for this persons growth?
when will you feel responsible for your growth?
how many times will you spread yourself thin for this person?
when will enough be enough for you personally?

are you sacrificing your dignity & self-respect in order to deal with this person bc you fear abandonment?
are you using your past as an excuse to accept shitty/toxic behavior from others in your present?
do you believe walking away from situations that hurt you makes you weak?