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Long ass thread: I turned 30 on 12/12 so I decided to share 30 lessons/rules/pieces of advice/thoughts I’ve learned from experience, books, movies, Twitter, family, etc.
1. When in doubt, focus on yourself. Solutions to your problem(s) become infinitely more clear.
2. The most important virtue you can have is not bravery, honesty, respect, or any of that other stuff. It’s practical wisdom. Kenny Rogers said it best “you’ve got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away, know when to run”
3. There is no such thing as a birthday month, HOWEVER, you do get a birthday weekend.
4. It’s hard (and it’s something I’m still working on myself) but try to think before you react and remember you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
5. Make the best decision you can with the information you have. If it works out, great! If it wasn’t the right choice, that’s ok, at least you know you did your best. Learn from it and do better next time.
6. If you say “but...” after an apology, you are not really saying sorry. You’re still trying to justify whatever it is you said/did.
7. Apologies stand alone. You should not say sorry with the expectation that the other person will also say sorry to you.
8. After you apologize and someone accepts it, YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TO DO BETTER!
9. Sure, intentions matter, but far far less than you think they do. Just because you didn’t mean to do something does not mean that you’re free of the responsibility from the consequences of your actions.
10. Having a family means that you have both rights and responsibilities. You have the right to ask for help/assistance when you need it. You also have the responsibility to provide it, even when inconvenient.
11. I know it’s tough. I know it’s easier said than done. But when you’re feeling down
-drink more water
-eat more veggies
-avoid substances
-get some sleep
-get some exercise in
-connect with family and friends
You. Will. Feel. Better.
-drink more water
-eat more veggies
-avoid substances
-get some sleep
-get some exercise in
-connect with family and friends
You. Will. Feel. Better.
12. Are you ready to admit you’re not perfect? Great, then you’re ready for a relationship. If not, you still have a lot of work to do.
13. Before you and your siblings were born, your parents had WHOLE lives. Respect that.
I’m ashamed to admit that I didn’t fully see my parents as people until I had my own kids but now I understand and appreciate them so much more.
I’m ashamed to admit that I didn’t fully see my parents as people until I had my own kids but now I understand and appreciate them so much more.
14. You do not owe your employer a GOTDAMN THING. Remember, if you died, your job would replace you in a week. Never be afraid to move on.
15. Always know where the safety exits are. This is both literal and figurative. Your safety is your responsibility. Nobody else’s.
16. Make your needs known and make sure you are loud, clear, and direct. I’m not saying all of your needs will be met but ignorance can no longer be an excuse.
17. Be yourself, always. If they don’t like you for you, fuck em.
18. Unless you’re running a nuclear power plant, being wrong is not the end of the world. Get comfortable with it. I spent 5 years getting a PhD, I was wrong for breakfast! And in the end, it made me smarter and batter.
19. Pick up an active hobby that’s beyond watching tv or listening to music. Just one good hobby you dedicate some time to can enrich your life!
20. Pick your battles wisely. If you fight every battle, you will always be tired. If you never fight any, people will walk all over you. Fight the ones that matter to you.
21. Respect other people’s boundaries the same way you want your boundaries respect. The Golden rule isn’t only for children.
22. Your children might not listen to you but they will NEVER fail to imitate you. Set a good example for them.
23. Dogs are better than cats. I don’t make the rules.
24. Be mindful of judging people based on first impressions. You don’t really have enough data to form an accurate judgment. Now, if they’re an asshole the 2nd time you meet them, JUDGE AWAY!
