Haha. Story of my life.

I have had women grab my hand, touch my chest, feel my stomach and make suggestive comments.

But I wasn't conditioned to see any of that as harassment and tbh I don't.

Our psychology is different, just like boys don't think getting https://twitter.com/debornair99/status/1339469748912988163

sexually exposed to older women is abusive or anything of sort. My first experience was with someone way older and tbh I felt like a champ. Not like I was abused.

My mates were getting hyped over "smooching," while I was already touching base.

I think what you feel as proper

or improper boils down to conditioning.

It cannot be about the power balance because young boys are getting with older women who can easily overpower them.

At some point, women touching you suggestively even becomes a form of accepting props.

The question is why we do we

condition girls and boys differently?

The answer is in psychology and biology. Boys never stay on the bottom of the power ladder for a long time. They spend majority of their lives being on top of it (comparatively.) So they are never exposed for too long.

Girls on the other hand we have to worry about because they are not as physically imposing as boys.

There are several factors and they all point to how girls are vulnerable and remain vulnerable in a physical world.

So when we talk about gender differences, we must be

willing to accept these truths.

We are different, it is why we are conditioned differently. Most of the traditions that are viewed as sexist now are based on protecting the girls. Some of them are misguided no doubt and we must be willing to uproot those.

But when we examine the dynamics of our relationship as humans. We shouldn't focus on it through the lenses of oppression.

There's good oppression. My parents giving me a curfew time until they were sure I could handle my own and make good decisions is good oppression.

It limited my freedom but increased my safety.

This is how we should look at the relationship between both sexes.

During the agricultural revolution, tradition was built around the family unit as an economic asset. The men worked and the women stayed home to raise the kids.

When the industrial revolution came along as compounded by WW1. The men were drafted into the military and the women had to keep the factories going.

When the men came back, it took some adjustment and traditional being as dynamic as it is became built around empowerment of

women. Other factors like birth control and invention of the tampons helped. Tradition became more liberalised. Sex was no longer something to be protected because the technology was available to prevent the result of sex being pregnancy. Which is a big life adjustment for women.

Maybe if a new species of super women became the norm, we'll teach boys to see suggestive touching as abuse because then they'll be truly vulnerable.

The only difference between most men and most women is physicality. And as long as we live in a physical world, it'll continue

to shape how we condition children and what they are taught to find offensive.

Women get away with a lot of things because we think it's "cute."

They couldn't force themselves on men physically even if they wanted to in most cases.

Men on the other hand, can.

Ergo difference in conditioning.