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Emotionally, she wants to feel closer to you than anybody else. She craves intimacy & connectedness, to her, this is "knowing you".
"Knowing you" isn't intellectually comprehending all the rich nuances of your views, and understanding precisely and exactly how your mind works. https://twitter.com/ManlyLifestyle/status/1339226629881679875
"Knowing you" isn't intellectually comprehending all the rich nuances of your views, and understanding precisely and exactly how your mind works. https://twitter.com/ManlyLifestyle/status/1339226629881679875
If you wish for a woman to "know you fully", you will be disappointed. Women are not us. They can, at best, be sympathetic to our views if they're clever and modest. But most aren't even that. Our only bridge for connection is emotional, there's nothing cerebral about it at all.
The desire for intimacy combined with her perceived self-importance in your life leads her to think she must understand you fully, but in truth, there are some chasms between men and women that simply cannot be bridged.
The truth: she just needs to feel safe with you.
The truth: she just needs to feel safe with you.
Doesn't matter what you agree and disagree about as long as your morals and family values are aligned.
You can literally argue about every topic and find consensus on nothing, and as long as she "emotionally knows you" because she "feels safe with you" it doesn't even matter.
You can literally argue about every topic and find consensus on nothing, and as long as she "emotionally knows you" because she "feels safe with you" it doesn't even matter.
The only thing that matters with women is trust and intimacy.
Them feeling safe.
That's it.
None of the intellectual shit matters.
Literally none of it.
She doesn't have to understand jack shit about anything cerebral for you to appreciate one another and be happy together.
Them feeling safe.
That's it.
None of the intellectual shit matters.
Literally none of it.
She doesn't have to understand jack shit about anything cerebral for you to appreciate one another and be happy together.
And when a woman feels safe with you, that she trusts you, and feels connected to you, she will become very submissive to you.
You might not agree on a lot of things, she may not even fully understand you, but she will cater to you because she wants to follow you.
You might not agree on a lot of things, she may not even fully understand you, but she will cater to you because she wants to follow you.
This is an asymmetric relationship.
Relationships between men and women are not equal (and therefore symmetrical)
She takes more value than she gives, but, the value she does give is priceless and irreplaceable.
She is important, but not on the same level. You're her guardian.
Relationships between men and women are not equal (and therefore symmetrical)
She takes more value than she gives, but, the value she does give is priceless and irreplaceable.
She is important, but not on the same level. You're her guardian.
Women, ultimately, are there to provide us comfort and children.
And, when they're at their best, their appreciation and needs can inspire us to transcend ourselves and become better people, for and because of them.
But they are not our educators or protectors. They rely on us.
And, when they're at their best, their appreciation and needs can inspire us to transcend ourselves and become better people, for and because of them.
But they are not our educators or protectors. They rely on us.
Women don't even operate in the same reality as us, so how can we expect them to know us entirely for all that we are?
This is, and I say this with 0 condescension - beyond them.
They don't need to fully get us. They just need to appreciate us & give us their best. That's all.
This is, and I say this with 0 condescension - beyond them.
They don't need to fully get us. They just need to appreciate us & give us their best. That's all.
This is another difference between men and women.
A woman feels you must get her entirely in order for her to feel safe with you, so she feels she can fully open up and give herself to you.
Women are always seeking safety, and when they find it in a man, they fall in love.
A woman feels you must get her entirely in order for her to feel safe with you, so she feels she can fully open up and give herself to you.
Women are always seeking safety, and when they find it in a man, they fall in love.
But men are not seeking safety, and because we are not seeking safety, we do not need to be understood. We do not need to feel protected. That is not our psychology, that is theirs. And we don't feel we give ourselves to, we feel we dedicate ourselves to.
And it's because we dedicate ourselves rather than give ourselves that we wish to be appreciated. A man, above all, does not wish to feel safe, but to be revered. That his woman appreciates him more than anything else on this planet. Who needs understanding when you're honoured?
Women inherently self-objectify. They want to be owned, but only by the right man, and this is implicit in the idea they "give themselves" to a man, not just their body, but mind and soul too.
They are looking for a man to surrender and give it all to. Men don't think like this.
They are looking for a man to surrender and give it all to. Men don't think like this.
Women foolishly believe they can come to know us fully. But they cannot. They can manipulate us, win us over, and be emotionally close to us - but they can never fully get us.
We are not of the same nature, and part of that chasm which separates us is what makes love beautiful.
We are not of the same nature, and part of that chasm which separates us is what makes love beautiful.
