How to find a mentor, in 3 easy steps, without making a fool of yourself

#1 - Work on something interesting. Just by picking a unique project/mission, you will get interesting people interested in you.

#2 - Don't ask someone to be your mentor. It's awkward.

Instead - ask for their opinion on a specific situation.

Eg. I just graduated & am debating between these two jobs. I'm torn. I respect you, what would you do?

ps. make it easy. ("help them help you")

Don't write an essay. keep it short. Don't ask them to write an essay. Make it multiple choice (and if they want to write more they can)

#3 - The 3rd step is what 90% of people forget. FOLLOWUP with what happened.

"hey, thanks so much. I took your advice. Here's what happened yada yada. Here's what's happening now, and how I plan to approach it. Let me know what you think"

Do that loop 3x with someone. At this point, either:

1) They've ghosted you
2) Or, boom. you have a mentor

bonus tips:

- remember it's a 2 way relationship. Don't think you're a charity case. They are getting something from it. Even if it's just amusement or inspiration from your hunger/ambition

- don't just go with the biggest name. Find someone you respect, that you get along w/