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Personally, I find that I’m very curious about people - their persona, thoughts & motives. But it’s easy to mistake it for interest in them as persons.
Half the time, it’s not. Although interest can be directly proportional to how much of a person you know. https://twitter.com/MazeDaMouth/status/1339089426799075328
Half the time, it’s not. Although interest can be directly proportional to how much of a person you know. https://twitter.com/MazeDaMouth/status/1339089426799075328
One thing I like to do is the “10 things I dislike about a person” test.
It’s a mental exercise that makes you assume the position of a pseudo-expert on the person. It’s see finish. Your curiosity starts to wane or wanes completely. Your eye is clear. It’s post-nut clarity.
It’s a mental exercise that makes you assume the position of a pseudo-expert on the person. It’s see finish. Your curiosity starts to wane or wanes completely. Your eye is clear. It’s post-nut clarity.
Now have to face the truth - Am I still interested in this person?
It doesn’t have to always be a yes. It can sometimes be No. The goal is to answer Yes a lot to the point where you now decide to go beyond that interest.
To commit to them. To love them.
It doesn’t have to always be a yes. It can sometimes be No. The goal is to answer Yes a lot to the point where you now decide to go beyond that interest.
To commit to them. To love them.
This part is the trickiest. You have seen their weakness and now you’re going past it. You’re committing.
Committing to showing up even on days when the answer to your interest question is No.
At this stage, it’s no longer attraction/infatuation/obsession. It feels like love.
Committing to showing up even on days when the answer to your interest question is No.
At this stage, it’s no longer attraction/infatuation/obsession. It feels like love.
The truth is, you can do this mental exercise, be aware yet it’ll still end in tears.
But I’ve found that the relationships I’ve been this deliberate/intentional about have managed to be strong and very beautiful.
But I’ve found that the relationships I’ve been this deliberate/intentional about have managed to be strong and very beautiful.
