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Often, I repeat a cliched sentence : Mortality is a strong teacher of life. I have had my moment of reckoning when I lost my mother.
However, this post is about grudges and complex human relationships. I will illustrate with an example
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Often, I repeat a cliched sentence : Mortality is a strong teacher of life. I have had my moment of reckoning when I lost my mother.
However, this post is about grudges and complex human relationships. I will illustrate with an example
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We all have our extended families of cousins and 2nd level cousins. Beyond a point, the lines of relationship fade & we all know that so and so is our relation.
In my family, we had a guy. Let's call him X for illustration. A spoilt brat, he never had to work a single day
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In my family, we had a guy. Let's call him X for illustration. A spoilt brat, he never had to work a single day
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Man of vices, he lead life on his own terms. We all had our tiffs with him (including yours truly)
2017 Feb : Marriage of one his cousin brother's son is arranged in Kerala. One of the 1st boys in next generation to get married. All of us travel to Kerala
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2017 Feb : Marriage of one his cousin brother's son is arranged in Kerala. One of the 1st boys in next generation to get married. All of us travel to Kerala
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The marriage is a roaring success. X doesn't turn up. Groom's father was livid and gives a mouthful to X's sisters. This scene plays out with me in presence (I am the youngest of that lot).
Anyways, uncomfortable moments later, everyone disperses.
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Anyways, uncomfortable moments later, everyone disperses.
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I sit down with Groom's father and tell him to let go. He was fuming, quite understandable. However, somehow pacified him and returned to Bangalore.
2017 Mar: I get a call from another cousin. The news is an absolute shocker
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2017 Mar: I get a call from another cousin. The news is an absolute shocker
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X has been found dead in his Apartment. Living solitary, his absence was identified with a stench from his apart.
When Police broke open his apartment, a half decomposed body was welcoming them. Known to be a drinker, he died with his peg in hand
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When Police broke open his apartment, a half decomposed body was welcoming them. Known to be a drinker, he died with his peg in hand
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The scene was apparently gory (I didn't even bother to look at WA forwards). When the body was got after post-mortem, dogs were getting attracted to the stench and we had to shoo them away.
When they took him for cremation, I was left wondering
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When they took him for cremation, I was left wondering
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What is the point of shouting and getting angry on him? What was the outcome of having grudge on him for such a small thing? Now, the person is no longer there in the world.
Next time, we wish to have grudges.. pause.. think.. Is it worth it? Human relations are complex
Next time, we wish to have grudges.. pause.. think.. Is it worth it? Human relations are complex
