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People depend on norms to guide them through life.
Humans are mimetic creatures - more often than not, we default to the level of informal norms.
Norms work, and the have immense coordination value: I can predict what you’ll do and you can predict what I’ll do.
Humans are mimetic creatures - more often than not, we default to the level of informal norms.
Norms work, and the have immense coordination value: I can predict what you’ll do and you can predict what I’ll do.
The fact that for some people, alternative lifestyles are a better fit, and I’m not disputing that this is the case, is not a great argument for normalizing them.
Things like polyamory or even sex work may be a great fit for a minority of people, but chaos for most.
Things like polyamory or even sex work may be a great fit for a minority of people, but chaos for most.
Many proponents of polyamory admit that it’s not for everyone. https://twitter.com/primalpoly/status/1004931338162622464
Ideally, this would lead to a very small minority of *qualified* people experimenting with poly.
The reality is that people’s powers of self-assessment are famously weak. About half the population would read that description and think: “Hmm, bingo, that’s me!”
The reality is that people’s powers of self-assessment are famously weak. About half the population would read that description and think: “Hmm, bingo, that’s me!”
The default option, if it’s worth its social coordinating salt, should encourage family formation and the best environment for raising children, the nucleus of future society itself.
Norms promote the default and stigma for alternatives protects it.
Norms promote the default and stigma for alternatives protects it.
The truth is, without pro-social defaults, people often do what is expedient for their immediate goals, which usually means money.
Things like sex work are the epitome of expediency. Even most vocal proponents will admit that the curve of returns on the job declines with age.
Things like sex work are the epitome of expediency. Even most vocal proponents will admit that the curve of returns on the job declines with age.
I don’t believe shaming individual people is a good tactic, but maintaining stigma around life strategies that will probably go sideways for a randomly chosen individual is sane.
