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about my therapist is she reaffirms me. She doesnât pose resolutions for life situations b/c she knows many of my challenges are currently fixed/systemic circumstances. She says âu are brilliant & capable. If there was an easy resolve youâd already be applying it.â
about my therapist is she reaffirms me. She doesnât pose resolutions for life situations b/c she knows many of my challenges are currently fixed/systemic circumstances. She says âu are brilliant & capable. If there was an easy resolve youâd already be applying it.â
It makes it so much easier to open up to her. I donât have to go through the struggle of picking apart situations that are not effort/mindset based. The emphasis is always âwith your lived reality & this complex unwavering thing, letâs explore how you can navigate & stay healthyâ
I really struggle leaning on people or talking to them about things because they always feel like being solution oriented is bringing up a bunch of things that clearly I would have done if they were options. They always misread the depth or misunderstand the layers
& itâs not enabling me b/c she digs in lovingly to challenge behaviors I need to unlearn. Real quick. But she always maintains this understanding of âu feel gridlocked in a particular space b/c of XYZ societal, economic, etc factors that may not shift yet so in the meantime..â
Itâs freeing. I havenât even cracked the surface of how complex everything is yet w/ her b/c itâs still early. But I feel heard for once. Not from a âdamn thatâs crazyâ standpoint but from a place of acknowledgment. A âthatâs true! letâs explore more & move w/ that in mindâ space
But I never thought how profound of an impact it would have on me to have someone consistently tell me âu donât give yourself enough credit for how resourceful/resilient/brilliant u are. Why u r stuck makes sense entirely here b/c of these limitations outside your controlâ
We donât go back and forth about making impossible situations better. Or hope filled fantasies of a life where XYZ is removed when thatâs not the current reality. Just pure focus on controlling & stabilizing the pieces. Today she was talking to me about how some of the Lâs I take
& was like some of that shit has to happen. U eat a LOT of circumstances u donât want to b/c of a necessity (vs ppl suggesting I opt out of things). She was like lets focus on the benefits u receive from some of the losses b/c u made certain decisions for a reason. Powerful man.
She reiterates that Iâm more articulate than I think I am even when my head is jumbled/I think Iâm communicating poorly. She says Iâm precise w/ how I speak & that itâs heavily influenced by trauma. But in our space, my job is not to put the pieces together to present. Just to be
For whatever reason, that blew my mind. Iâm so focused on knowing myself intrinsically b/c Iâm convinced ppl wouldnât understand/know that ppl arenât there in the same capacity, and Iâm obsessed with knowing others so well as a safeguard that everything can be a performance.
