TW: Abuse/domestic violence.

A friend of mine bravely wrote about her abuser for @centreWJ. Abusers who "do good" or are upstanding members of society are often overlooked, and their victims are ignored. https://www.centreforwomensjustice.org.uk/new-blog-1/2020/12/14/the-myth-of-the-decent-domestic-violence-abuser

As Olenka said: "We must be cautious about using their achievements and standing in society as a way to mitigate and diminish the violence and trauma they have inflicted."

These abusers work and live freely among us. Doing acts of community and selflessness in public whilst abusing their victims in private. Olenka's abuser constantly told her "no one would believe you"

This is why victims, women in particular, are terrified to speak up. They fear shame, and complete dismissal of their experiences let alone being let down by the justice system and in extreme cases fear of being killed.