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Yesterday, I had lunch with a feminist and I realized, most times we are often too judgmental on this bird app. Myself inclusive. Maybe, online feminists are not as bad as we perceive them. Before you judge; let me explain.
A feminist took me for lunch and she paid
A feminist took me for lunch and she paid
We got talking and she said 'Do you know you are way more cool, than your social media personalities?'
I laughed and said 'people say that a lot'
Homegirl was driving at a point and I didn't suspect. She looked me in the eye and asked a question that threw me off balance.
I laughed and said 'people say that a lot'
Homegirl was driving at a point and I didn't suspect. She looked me in the eye and asked a question that threw me off balance.
She asked ' and you don't think that most of line feminists are much more cool than their social media personalities'.
That line sunk within me, I didn't know what to say. She went on to explain that, sometimes social media is an escape route for most people, which is quite true.
That line sunk within me, I didn't know what to say. She went on to explain that, sometimes social media is an escape route for most people, which is quite true.
She explained that sometimes, in the process of trying to be expressive the angst of years past and pains caused by patriarchy finds it's way into their tweets. I could relate with that because most times, my tweets are filled with anger for Buhari too and most peeps don't get it
She told me her story. How she was raped by her boyfriend's brother and only for the supposed loved to betray her and support the rapist brother. I will be honest, such hurts don't heal easily. She told me many other issues she had faced concerning patriarchal influence.
Lastly, I was able to tell her that she was hurt and she needed to heal. She smiled and asked. Healing comes with some form of justice. I don't see justice in Nigeria, so that healing isn't coming as soon as you think.
Her words burned me. I realized we are all victims.
Her words burned me. I realized we are all victims.
The pain about the Nigerian situation is, we all are victims and to find succour, we turn against each other. Everyone is a victim of the oppressive Nigerian state. Men, feminists, LGBT, masses and disabled and people with special needs. We are all victims and we need healing
The story of Nigeria is the story of an oppressive state that denies it's citizens or should I say subjects of healing. We all become monsters as a result of the deep hurt we have suffered. Survival of the fittest turns us to the oppressors we most times hate.
Dear online feminists. I am not your enemy. I understand your pain and I know your frustrations but please, let expressions be curtailed to pass messages more than hurt. We all want a better society and we wish for equality, but equality won't come through attacks and grudges.
