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Falling for Abuse ~
Many people seem to think that only weak and stupid people fall victim to abuse. That's complete nonsense.
The abuse starts slowly, until it becomes constant. You react by trying to please the other, but it never works. It continues until you believe -->
Many people seem to think that only weak and stupid people fall victim to abuse. That's complete nonsense.
The abuse starts slowly, until it becomes constant. You react by trying to please the other, but it never works. It continues until you believe -->
--> you're fat, ugly, stupid, useless, and always always always wrong.
I had a boss who was drop-dead gorgeous, rich, and successful. Her husband made her stand on a scale each morning and berated her mercilessly if she gained 1 pound. She was 5'6" and weighed 110 lbs. -->
I had a boss who was drop-dead gorgeous, rich, and successful. Her husband made her stand on a scale each morning and berated her mercilessly if she gained 1 pound. She was 5'6" and weighed 110 lbs. -->
--> She could have easily left. She killed herself instead.
I fell for that type of abuse once. It took me years to understand why I hated myself so much before I realised it was the constant psychological abuse. In the end I thought I wasn't worth loving. I became numb -->
I fell for that type of abuse once. It took me years to understand why I hated myself so much before I realised it was the constant psychological abuse. In the end I thought I wasn't worth loving. I became numb -->
--> to all emotions. I shut down.
The good news is that I left. I saved until I had enough for an apt. I had a JC Penney credit card that I maxed-out to furnish a place in an iffy side of town.
It took years to realize I hadn't been myself, but slowly "I" returned. -->
The good news is that I left. I saved until I had enough for an apt. I had a JC Penney credit card that I maxed-out to furnish a place in an iffy side of town.
It took years to realize I hadn't been myself, but slowly "I" returned. -->
Believe it or not, but the wrong phrase can still send my heart and mind racing. And I'm a macho-chick. Tough. Stoic.
Mental abuse takes longer to heal than physical abuse. That's why the military still use PsyOps. It's insidious; not obvious; hard to see; harder to fight. -->
Mental abuse takes longer to heal than physical abuse. That's why the military still use PsyOps. It's insidious; not obvious; hard to see; harder to fight. -->
No one should ever have to apologise for being abused. You did nothing, nothing, nothing to deserve it.
And it doesn't just happen to women. I've seen big burly men; gay, straight, and transitioning, all succumb to abuse. It didn't stop until they confided in someone. -->
And it doesn't just happen to women. I've seen big burly men; gay, straight, and transitioning, all succumb to abuse. It didn't stop until they confided in someone. -->
If you find you can never, ever please your mate and you feel rotten about yourself, you may not be the problem. Find the courage to whisper your thoughts to someone. And please, please, please be gentle on yourselves, Friends.
Life is too short.
Peace
Life is too short.
Peace
